navyretired 1
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Thank God for my bride of 41 years. And thank God your situation worked out. without friends it could have been much uglier, LEO's hear so many lie's and see so many abused women that they can be very pragmatic.
I can tell you from experience that you don't really know someone until you divorce them.
At least you weren't married to her. I can tell you from experience that you don't really know someone until you divorce them.
She tried to take out a protection order against me, first by telling a bunch of lies to the court, then by getting my kids to write statements about how they were afraid of me and I was abusive. Luckily she was turned down both times, it would have meant turning in all of my guns for the duration of the order and would have affected my employment as a LEO.
Take a good look at your state's domestic violence and PFA order laws. They will scare you. HOw about an instant, albeit temporary, divorce from your wife based on her word alone. BTW, that split is 100/0 in her favor and could be that way for months. No guns, no custody, no visitation. You pay maintenance for her, child support on the kids and also all bills to keep a roof over their heads adn a vehicle even though you're outdoors.
Live in GF, same deal. Even if you own the house you might end up out of it.
All that until a judge has a hearing on whether or not to keep the order permanent for one year. THat hearing could take months.
Boys keep the Girls out of your House till you have had some pre-marriage counseling . It is not fool proof but it can help prevent many problems.
“Women” are not the “problem”.
if at some point the idea pops in your head that you might be best served by just walking out of the argument its probably not a bad idea
Statistically, those who live together before marriage have a higher rate of divorce. Playing house is generally not a good idea, as it's entered into far more lightly than marriage yet carries many of the same legal ramifications.
if at some point the idea pops in your head that you might be best served by just walking out of the argument its probably not a bad idea, if its not already too late. though i know its easier said than done. i got to take anger management for throwing a tennis ball and not at her
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“Women” are not the “problem”.
Some are. Anyone, male or female, who lies simply to hurt another person, is a problem.