1911 Tuner "Amen" very well put!
Having attended to many life ending events, after the fact and some in progress. I have to say that with each one it made me not question people's choices. Others, of course in retrospect, are willing to chastise the dead for their choice. But, we do not walk in the departed's shoes. As much as we would like to think that there are venues for help and change, many are just another brick wall faced by the party. There is simply not enough inpatient rooms for treatment, and many are just plain too vexed by the system.
A 12 yr old boy who expressed his desire to escort a fellow 7th grader to a shool dance and then was rebuffed by the other party. This 12 yr old then peddled out to grandpa's farm, about 7 miles out of town. He then extracted his own gun, stored at the farm, from grandpa's safe. He then penned 3 page note as to why he was doing what he did.
A 30 yr old guy who was fraught with family trouble, joblessness, and, other problems. Proceeded to be taken in by his mother. He then dressed himself in his "Sunday Best", drove his car into the tuck under garage of the townhome. He left the car running and faded to black. His note of apology was extensive, that included sealed envelopes to various family members, and an open note to his mother. He thought he would minimize the funeral chores, but already being dressed in what he wanted to be buried in. He did not factor that he lost bowel and bladder control when his life ceased to be! He is thinking while flawed, was directed at sort of saving the living some pain.
I have had fellow health care provider relate that her 12 yr old son knew how to take his life with little fan fare. Overdose on a specific drug and wash it down with some liquid courage.
Life sure is not pefect! There are many unanswered calls for help! But, in the end we did not walk in those people's shoes!
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