Anti-gun ex-wife... progress made in tiny steps

[Deleted member 66305]

My ex and I divorced about a year and a half ago.

She asked me to agree voluntarily to a clause in the decree that I would not store weapons in the house. I refused. She told me that if she ever discovered i bought a gun, she would do everything in her power to remove my parental rights. I laughed, and told her in Texas, she'd have better luck removing my parental rights for NOT owning a gun.

Fast forward to a couple months ago, when i told her i bought my first gun. I told her because I was going to tell the kids (I don't think keeping it secret is the best way to keep it safe), and I didn't want her hearing about it from them first. I knew that a few of the guys she'd dated were gun owners, so I suspected she might have relaxed a bit.

To her credit, she didn't freak. She only asked to see how i stored it, which i expected.

So, next time she dropped the kids off, i took her into the bedroom, and showed her the mini gunvault behind the bed. She was satisfied with that arrangement, and even asked to see the gun inside.

Her current boyfriend is a typical Texan... I'm hoping between the two of us, we can get her to the range, sometime. I expect if I get her shooting the Ruger mk III, she may actually enjoy it -- in fact, she admitted as much, stating she was "afraid she'd like it."

 

[win71]

Now that is a love story.

If Bulldog, my ex wife, ever gets hold of a gun I hope I'm in some other state.
Some other country would even be better.

 

[Caliban]

yes, it's nice to hear a story where sanity and responsibility prevail

i'm pretty sure most of my ex-girlfriends wouldn't be able to get a gun in new york, because the license application asks you to disclose your history of psychological treatment and medication.

 

[DKSuddeth]

anti gun ex wife.

probably the four scariest words a man could ever hear.

 

[dresden8]

Dude, get back in there!

 

[george29]

That's the excuse my ex uses to keep the kids away. Of course if I didn't own any, she would use a different excuse.

 

[Rxxdoc]

My wife does not like them, but when the eastern half of the country's power grid went down, she asked me to go get "my friend".

She tells me to get "my friend" when we go traveling or camping.

She has agreed to go shooting with me in order to protect our little girl and to back me up in case I bite the dust.

Sometimes they learn, with time, that guns are safe.

 

[Rxxdoc]

Pro gun ex wife!

Might be worse.

 

[blackcash88]

Why even give a crap about "working" on your ex-wife? That's the other dude's job now and you know he's getting the "benefits" for it, too. You don't need that headache.

Bottom line is she's okay with you having guns as far as the kids are concerned. Problem solved...nothing more for you to do.

 

[blackcash88]

Win71, a big +1 here, too.

 

[Yoda]

I never could have a gun with my first wife...

When I was dating my first wife, her father would occasionally get drunk and wave a .45 at her, so, during that marriage, there never was a gun in the house. She would have freaked out. In fact, I think her experiences in that environment were a big contributor to the emotional problems that led to the breakup of that marriage. For a long itme, after the divorce and after I bought my first guns, I was afraid she'd think of some reason to file a restraining order that would force me to surrender the guns.

HOWEVER, I knew I had a "keeper" with my second and forever wife. When I discretely brought up the subject of guns for the first time, she showed me the shotgun she kept in the closet and started complaining how one of her brothers had borrowed a .32 and didn't return it. For Mother's Day, I got her a Crimson Trace setup for her carry gun, a S&W 640.

Nothing says, "I love you" like a set of laser sights.

- - - Yoda

Blame Congress

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[rainbowbob]

My wife absolutely freaked out when I first got my CPL and pocket gun (about a year ago).

Along the way she realized I was being responsible about making sure it was inaccessible to our grandson, and that I hadn't turned into some kind of suicidal vigilante looking to go out in a blaze of glory.

The other day she told me she had one of the most realistic dreams ever: We were asleep in bed and she woke up (in her dream) to the sound of a break-in invasion. She said she then woke up for real and was able to get back to sleep because she knew my revolver was close at hand.

I don't think she'll be giving me any more grief on the subject.

Next I gotta work on my daughter to let me start training my 4-year-old grandson in gun safety and marksmanship. He is already shooting bubbles out of the sky with a water pistol!

Here is a photo of him and his "girl" Lilly. I asked him if that was a real gun and he said, "Naw...it's a fake." I pointed out to him that he was exhibiting improper trigger control and that he should always keep his finger away from the trigger until he has the gun pointed in a safe direction and is ready to shoot. I showed him the proper way to index his finger along side the frame and he was paying close attention. It's just a matter of time...

 

[shooting4life]

Pro gun ex wife!

Might be worse.

I am still laughing from that one

 

[ADKWOODSMAN]

Sounds like some of you guys should have brought up gun ownership earlier in your relationships. IMHO

 

[rainbowbob]

Sounds like some of you guys should have brought up gun ownership earlier in your relationships.

Well, yeah! We should have bought MicroSoft when they first went public too.

When we were married 33 years ago I was a freak-flag-flying hippy with little interest in firearms at a time when universal disarmament was going to usher in a new age of peace and freedom. We live - we learn. And hindsight is 20/20.

 

[Joe Link]

Man Bob, that is classic

 

[vynx]

My wifes not anti-gun she's just one of those people that thinks bad things won't happen to them.

Then a couple weeks ago she read about a daytime home invasion robbery that occurred about 2 miles from our house. Three guys broke down the front door but one of the guys inside had a gun and shot one of them the other 2 fled. This was in Woodland Hills California about 2 - 3 weeks ago.

After that she said maybe she should keep at gun at her side of the bed too. I keep one on the nightstand when I'm at home.

Now if I could only get her to go to the range.

 

[dalepres]

I'm hoping between the two of us, we can get her to the range, sometime.

Ok, this might be tasteless, but I thought I should point out that it is not allowed to take the ex-wife to the range and let her play target.

 

[jakemccoy]

In short, don't get involved with anti-rights women.