Anyone with female SOs with fixed shooting tastes

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My fiance luckily, about a year, statred to enjoy shooting. I thought for a time that I was going to be out of luck about patronizing my love for shooting(eventually getting into competitions once I'm working as a lawyer, and taking up reloading, and unsophisticated custom work). Well wouldn't you know she goes and falls in love with my Ruger P90 .45 ACP.

First time I took her out I had her shoot 9mm out of my Arcus 94C(sold it for a profit to a cousin, she knew) and she had a rahter negative emotional reaction. When we left to get lunch she literally broke down into tears in truck and I felt like dirt over it, well like a trooper she gave it another go a month later. Not such a bad reaction but she was still a bit messed up over it, was doing really good each time out, nothing amazing but at fifteen yards she could keep the shots center mass and less than ten inch grouping.

We talked, and talked and settled on the idea that once we were married eventually (I have to finish law school, and she has to finish medical school, we're too busy for wedding bells) she'd go out to the range with me once a month to stay reliably proficient for HD/SD purposes but she'd never enjoy it and she would only get a small pocket pistol, she said my Rossi snubby .357 at the time (sold that too) was too big a gun. Well I picked up a .22lr revolver and planned to take her out to the range with it and I went ahead and brought the Ruger P90 out to get the dust out so to speak. Well I went ahead and fast fired a clip through it at fifteen yards, kept a tight five inch grouping for seven shots on a rifle target, nothing amazing for a gun I only shoot once every few months (bit my magnum bug in .357 and .44 and I can oddly keep those much tighter at 20 yards).

I turn to prep the .22lr revolver and I notice an twinkle in my fiance's eyes. She asks to shoot it and in odd and confused manner I reloaded and prepped it for her. She popped the safety off and at fifteen yards she kept a steady one shot/one second pace and kept it at about eight inches. She actually smiled and I was shocked. She asked to go again and I figured to let her go ahead the risk rocking the boat. In ten minutes she went through the rest of the 50 round box and a few 'custom' targets I had brought, (take a silohuette, reverse it and trace the outsides of playing cards six times on the target for speed run throughs with my mangum revolvers). She was really happy and she shot really well. This was all aobut nine months ago after we had been dating for well over a year and a half.

Now all she wants to shoot is my P90, I don't particularly miss or love the gun, it's just too reliable a gun to let go unlike my Pre-Braztech Rossi snubby and Arcus that I sold to my cousin both for five hundred (told her all about how I came by them and traded a RSBH back when I had three of them, didn't tell her I bought the RSBH at an estate sale for two hundred but I did my part to take her to gunbroker, auction arms, and gun shops, and told her the price I wanted was more than she could find them for but she learned to shoot on them and didn't mind the premium). When my fiance found out that I had sold my two cheapies she ripped me a new one about not selling my P90 and gave me an evil face.

Now I've tried to introduce her to the P345 slim downed DAO of the P90 but she doesn't want one ever. I've tried pointing out 1911s, Kahrs, yes even Glocks, XDs but she loves the P90. Loves it so much she frowned when I told her that the P90 was being phased out slowly for SR series.

I can't get to enjoy snubbies, pocket guns, just that P90, now she wants a shotgun and has had some luck with my 870 clone but her fixed taste just tickles me funny. My grandma was like that my grandpa told me when I told him about it. She'd only shoot and carry a Ruger Security Six 4" he'd come by on the cheap, from a buddy of his when he overhauled a motorcylce engine for him for fun. She just loved shooting .38 special out of it so I figure there must be other stories like that. Guns our women love and guns we lose.

If I could turn her onto a more CCW friendly gun I'd be happier but for now it's enough. Oh and she wants me to reload, and learn some gunsmithing so she can keep the P90 around as long as possible. I figure for a wedding present I'll pickup a few P90s.
 
One of the neglected secrets in shooting is that the way a gun fits the hand has a huge influence on how well the shooter does with it and how comfortable the shooter is with it.

Having a bunch of different guns is not a sign of competence or skill. Shooting one gun very well and enjoying it is.

Perhaps she has found the gun that fits her.

That said, it doesn't mean that that particular make/model is the only one that fits here either. That particular gun falls into a family that has the same grip angle and reach to trigger. Those will all feel pretty much like the P90. Get outside that "family" and they won't fit anywhere near as well.

Let her know about Pax's website, corneredcat.com, and suggest she look at the section on fitting the gun to the shooter.
 
Now all she wants to shoot is my P90, I don't particularly miss or love the gun, it's just too reliable a gun to let go unlike my Pre-Braztech Rossi snubby and Arcus that I sold to my cousin both for five hundred

This sentence has me confused. Do you have a problem with giving the P90 to her? If so, why? Number one- She's your future wife. Number two- She actually enjoys shooting the gun, and shoots it well.



BTW : Get used to having things confiscated from you in marriage, and parenthood....... Especially parenthood.
 
If she likes a P90, then let her have the P90. If/when she gets a CHL, she can look for a more concealable gun at that time, OR figure out a way to carry a P90. But she can cross that bridge when she comes to it. Just be thankful that she is interested in shooting, is competent with a serious defensive pistol, and has enough confidence in herself to speak up about what gun she likes.

My wife was a mild anti until she held a Glock 17, and decided that "I don't really like guns, but if I did, I'd want a Glock." So she eventually got a Glock (she chose the 26, her choice) and is happy with it. If I had tried to steer her in another direction, she might never have gotten seriously involved in shooting.

I'll second the recommendation for www.corneredcat.com to let her make her own decision on it; if you steer into a gun she wouldn't have chosen herself, she won't enjoy shooting it and may resent you for overriding her choice in the matter.

http://www.corneredcat.com/FirstGun/missadventures.aspx

Too much help?

Many women have discovered that even if they have a husband or friend ready and willing to do every last bit of the legwork or even purchase a gun for them, it really pays off to do your own shopping anyway.

"My husband bought me my first gun," says Jennie van Tuyl, a gun owner in Washington. "He tried to research which guns had smaller grips for me. We learned the hard way that one needs to be involved in the shopping for her own gun. I decided I needed a gun that fit my hand better and was easier to conceal."

Many women could sing along on that chorus. The well-meant gift gun that ends up gathering dust in a deserted drawer or (better) in the back of the safe is very nearly a cliché. Almost as trite is the gun purchased by a loved one while the woman comes along as a silent partner rather than an active participant.

The people behind the counter often share frustration with this turn of events. Tamara Keel, former sales manager at Coal Creek Armory in Knoxville, Tennessee, says, "You know it just annoys me so much to have to elbow the man out of the way to make the sale to her. She's got to want the gun for herself and it's got to be what she wants, or it's just going to end up getting shoved into her nightstand drawer anyway."

Larry Correia, part owner of FBMG, a gun store in Draper, Utah, agrees. "Sometimes couples will come in, and he's just dragging her along. We are going to end up selling them the gun he wants her to have, rather than the gun she really wants or needs, and that just doesn't do anyone any good. It is really better if she speaks up."

What this boils down to is that no matter how tempting it might be to let someone else drive your handgun purchase, you are more likely to be happy with the end result if you actively drive the process yourself.
 
Just let her shoot what she likes. I tried to get my gf to try out some different pistols, but the only one she liked was the P89, so now she owns two of those.
Personally, if I was you, after the reactions that she had earlier, I'd be thrilled she's shooting.
 
I got myself into the same boat except my fiancee fell for my S&W model 19-2. Afetr a few rounds she stated that it should be the "house gun". I am fine with that except for losing full control over such a lovely firearm, but we have a rule that I shoot her gun and she shoots all mine but who ever does the shooting does the cleaning. Other than that I kinda like thinking of every thing as ours and would rather have her shoot everything I own than be a victim cause I thought something was mine and she wasn't proficient with it.
 
look at it this way, you can use it as an excuse to buy more guns.:D

just tell her "i thought you might like this one but if you don't, i'll keep it for myself.":D

i can't do that with my wife. she's a gun nut and likes almost every gun i buy so i usually end up buying two.:eek:
 
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If it were a Holland & Holland or something that was just way, break the bank, out of the question, I can see how you'd maybe need advice on the whole awkward learning to share thing. But it's not, it's a P90. Count your lucky stars, and go buy two more P90's! Then enjoy. :)
 
Well was kind of hoping to hear a few like stories and got some, thanks.

Yes I sold a couple of guns to kin at a profit but it got to be a bit of personal beef. She got a whole holier than though act because she's already lawyer, been one 'round ten years and went on about how she could buy my whole collection that I've come by because of trips to the casion(actually how I all my purchases and is how I usually finance them, with this economy though not so much) and she's a woman whom don't take challenges lightly or be told no lightly. So yeah I sold them for a profit, did I tell her I was getting a profit yes, did I tell how much, nope, did I make sure I met my ethical duty to point out where she could get them a good bit cheaper, yes, so she had the option to get them cheaper but chose to make a different bargain because of her foolish pride.

I don't mind giving my fiacne my P90, I actually tried a few times and she told me she wasn't comfortable owning one because she's been a bit mobile in the moving department, from Grandmas(to help her in her ailing health) to Uncle's (helping in ailing health) back to a friends house, so on and so, every three months or so, so I can understand her point on not wanting it right now. My only point was, I don't really hold a love for it and it was a gift/payment from a cousin for helping rebuild his motorcylce and watching his dogs for a couple of weeks and while I think it's an incredibly reliable gun that's a workhorse to not be denied, I don't hold a love for it, maybe because I love magnum revolvers but I couldn't bare to let a good gun go in a sale. She's welcome to it now, once we're married she's welcome to it, worst things in life than her loving to shoot with me.

I actually tried to get her to explain why she really only like the P90 and she couldn't really explain it other than it was "sexy"(P series Rugers sexy???) and that she felt like a bada$$. Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to get her away from the P90, just a little variety so she can maybe find a gun she can conceal carry on her person rather than her purse. I thought about showing her the P89 but she already likes the .45 ACP and I'd like to keep it that way if I can, no complaints about the 9mm but if she likes the .45 ACP why rock the boat.

Maybe once the SR series comes out in the .45ACP she'll like that as well. I like Ruger revolvers(own Blackhawks, wants a Redhawk .44magnum in 4"), so we can both be brand favorites. I was just wondering if others had stories of their female SOs falling in love with either a particular caliber they wont let go of or a gun of theirs they won't let go of.
 
Yes I sold a couple of guns to kin at a profit but it got to be a bit of personal beef. She got a whole holier than though act because she's already lawyer, been one 'round ten years and went on about how she could buy my whole collection

Never mind, she rubbed your nose in her cash, she deserves no consideration.

You gotta love a woman that loves a .45.
 
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