It's funny how the AR with a BOLT HOLD OPEN can't be loaded to suit some users. The procedure I used was to charge the bolt, hold it open, load magazine, push the bolt release and let it slam home. Simple and quick enough on the first magazine. It what I was taught and is still taught.
After that, it automatically holds open for the next mag change - unless you're doing tac mag changes or in some competitive range event. The Army has an answer to that too, load them down two rounds. That directive came out in 1968.
The answer has been around almost as long as the M16. If you're loading full mags against the bolt, it's an arbitrary decision. You don't have to.
GI mags are aluminum, which will bend the feed lips if dropped fully loaded on them. Bad magazines are often surplused out of the military and show up at gun shows, buyer beware. Steel mags are often aftermarket, quality may be spotty, most new ones have a nice return policy. Just keep mailing them back until all of them are gtg.
PMags don't bend the feed lips, although when really stressed, they may crack. It probably would have ruined a metal mag with that much stress. Some lowers are broached a bit tight in the magwell, a Pmag can be lightly sanded and relieved, although most new ones don't have the problem. It's something found and fixed years ago.
As for loading a full 30 rounder against a closed bolt, that's mandatory with the AK. Just don't do it with the AR, it's very cooperative, and a significant reason for it's superior ergos and sustaining higher firepower.