This old fluroscope photograph may help.
When the round fires, the bullet and slide are accelerated in opposite directions at the same time. The slide grabs the barrel by the upper lugs, and drags it backward with it.
Note the engagement of the upper barrel lugs to the slide lugs.
If you look close, you can see the bones in the shooter's hand.
Note the position of the link, and the misalignment of the slide and frame at the rear. The slide has moved approximately .075 inch, and the base of the bullet is about an inch from the muzzle. At this point, the slide and barrel are still locked together horizontally.
Nominally...in the .45 caliber pistol...the slide moves 1/10th inch at bullet exit. In a 1911-pattern 9mm pistol...because the slide and barrel are about the same mass as the .45, and because the bullet is moving faster...the slide would likely move a little less at the point of bullet exit, but the difference would be very little. Maybe .010 inch or so if that much.
At 1/10th inch of rearward barrel and slide travel, the link just starts to tug on the barrel to draw it out of the slide. At .250 inch of travel, the barrel is completely linked down and the slide continues on its way.