to the OP- yes, the brass framed guns will shoot loose, and rather quickly. I threw away (2) brass frames on 1851 Colts, that pulled the cylinder pin out of the frame- and had to replace them with CVA steel frames. It cost me $67 per gun and about 2 hours per gun rework back in 1995.
A steel frame gun is a much better investment for shooting. With the steel frame, I can top off the cylinders and shoot it with no breakages- it will handle any load. Shooting reduced loads may extend the life of a brass frame, but less than 20 grains of powder is a squib load- even with reduced loads, a brass frame will start to loosen up, the barrel will start wobbling on the frame after a short time.
If you notice in the tuning links posted above, the 2 guns they are working on are steel framed- not brass framed. Also, the procedure to "harden the hand" with a torch and water quench, is VERY QUESTIONABLE. The only way to actually know if that is helping or hurting, is by doing a Brinell or Rockwell hardness test. Allow me to elaborate- when cartridge riflle brass gets work hardened from several reloadings, we ANNEAL the shoulder area of the cartridges, in the exact same manner- torch and water quench- this is to SOFTEN them, so they don't crack- not to harden them.
I'd never torch heat a Colt hand part to cherry red, then quench it. You may very well make it softer, and it will wear out in no time, or bend.