thanks for the replies. this is gonna be tough.
electronic ears - got 'em, two sets
surefire - she has one
before you suggest it, she has a nice benchmade auto that she carries every day
leather - this is a tough one. thos of you who carry know how personal leather is. we are still experimenting with carry modes but she's trying a belly band at the moment, we'll see how well that works. we decided that carry in the purse is a bad idea.
btw, this is in addition to the ar we are building just for her, which i can't help but brag about: armalite lower, rra lower parts group w/ match trigger, ambi safety and ergo grip, tapco stock and sling adapter, m&a detachable rear sight, stag arms limited edition 14.5" barrel w/ permanently attached phantom flashider left handed flat top upper.
she carries a glock, so there ain't much you can do to make it "pretty."
oh, and i'm pretty sure i'll be getting her a diamond ring but that's somethimg that one should present in person.
she's got plenty of evil black polymer and steel things so i'd like to get her something nice and girly and cute but i have no taste in that sort of thing. i'm hopeless.