Thank you for all the advice.
I am NOT talking about starting a violent/ rasist miltia, just a small group of close family and friends, perpared for when TSHTF, the only reason we would be armed would be for self- defense, and we would of course obey firearms laws. the two plans that I have in mind are either setting up at members house w/a well, a means to get the water out of the well, and enough land for farming. Or we would try to load up and head someplace remote. (the latter would be the only except we would have to travel a few hundred mile for true remotness, and most of the people who might be members (self included) live in a somewhat rural area).