Back in the day it was common for makers of match grade rifle barrels to lap the bore with a short slug of soft lead (just coincidentally called a lap) coated with lubricant and a very fine abrasive. This procedure polished the internal surfaces of the bore, removing cutter marks, etc, thereby improving accuracy and other things. Lead is softer than aluminum or brass (just to mention another metal that many cleaning rods were made of)--you can scratch it with a fingernail. That the lead--imbedded/coated with abrasive--polished the barrel steel in not too many passes of the lap is proof that this process can wear away steel. This is bore wear under controlled conditions--i.e. "good" bore wear. Nowadays we can do the same thing by using bullets coated with abrasive--it's called fire lapping.
Now, for the sake of discussion, let's change the abrasive from, say, emery, to carbon (a bi-product of combustion which is also very hard) and let's change the lap material to brass or aluminum. The end result is still bore wear. If we concentrate the back and forth movement of the "lap" at just the muzzle end of the bore, then bore diameter grows microscopically larger at the muzzle. If we further concentrate the back and forth movement on only one side of the bore at the muzzle, we get an out of round bore, which is bad for accuracy. This is bore wear under uncontrolled conditions--i.e. "bad" bore wear.
This brief description is not my subjective opinion. I have a four inch Colt Python barrel in my possession that shows exactly this type of wear inside the bore at the muzzle end. The revolver this barrel was taken from is mine, and it was used for years to shoot PPC and other matches. I am a fanatic about keeping my firearms clean (thanks to my dad and to my USMC drill instructors), but it took me a few years and a new Python barrel to realize that there are ways to clean a gun that damage it, and ways to clean that don't. Soft aluminum/brass/jointed cleaning rods, muzzle-entry, lack of bore guides, etc. are not good.
The reason most shooters don't pay much attention to/believe this particular issue is because the average shooter doesn't clean his/her gun after shooting. Most do it once a year before whatever season is about to open. That's real truth. Of course, average shooters don't post on these forums.