Preacherman
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vmfrantz, there's another factor here. If I may say so, you need to sit down and think VERY seriously about this.
Let's say this young man does time for this assault. OK. He'll be out in a few years, and is unlikely to have reformed. At that time, he'll need a place to stay . . . and I'm willing to bet your wife will want to offer him a place, at least temporarily.
Now, he's at home. You've still got the problem of securing your firearms, protecting your step-daughter and daughter, and facing him down if he gets uppity. It gets even worse. What if he comes home on a drug-induced meltdown high and tries to take your guns, or money, or whatever? What if he tries to assault you? What if he comes home with another weapon, and you're left with no alternative but to use lethal force to stop him?
That's right . . . you've just killed your wife's only son. You're in a no-win situation. And this isn't fantasy or wishful thinking - believe me, I've seen similar situations before! I've got more than ten years experience with prison ministry, including several years of full-time chaplaincy, and I've had to work with felons and their families. I'm not exaggerating when I say that this is a real possibility, not a dumb scenario.
I can only suggest that you show this post (perhaps this whole thread) to your wife, and sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. She can't get away with blaming guns, because the gun isn't the problem: but if she has a typical bleeding-heart he's-my-son-and-I-love-him-no-matter-what attitude, you're in the doghouse, now and then. This can destroy your relationship, and your life.
It can also land you in court, facing a charge of murder. Imagine if she tells the cops that her son wouldn't hurt a fly, he was a reformed character, and you misinterpreted him? (Poor misunderstood little so-and-so, ain't he?)
You've got a difficult road ahead, friend. I wish you luck.
Let's say this young man does time for this assault. OK. He'll be out in a few years, and is unlikely to have reformed. At that time, he'll need a place to stay . . . and I'm willing to bet your wife will want to offer him a place, at least temporarily.
Now, he's at home. You've still got the problem of securing your firearms, protecting your step-daughter and daughter, and facing him down if he gets uppity. It gets even worse. What if he comes home on a drug-induced meltdown high and tries to take your guns, or money, or whatever? What if he tries to assault you? What if he comes home with another weapon, and you're left with no alternative but to use lethal force to stop him?
That's right . . . you've just killed your wife's only son. You're in a no-win situation. And this isn't fantasy or wishful thinking - believe me, I've seen similar situations before! I've got more than ten years experience with prison ministry, including several years of full-time chaplaincy, and I've had to work with felons and their families. I'm not exaggerating when I say that this is a real possibility, not a dumb scenario.
I can only suggest that you show this post (perhaps this whole thread) to your wife, and sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. She can't get away with blaming guns, because the gun isn't the problem: but if she has a typical bleeding-heart he's-my-son-and-I-love-him-no-matter-what attitude, you're in the doghouse, now and then. This can destroy your relationship, and your life.
It can also land you in court, facing a charge of murder. Imagine if she tells the cops that her son wouldn't hurt a fly, he was a reformed character, and you misinterpreted him? (Poor misunderstood little so-and-so, ain't he?)
You've got a difficult road ahead, friend. I wish you luck.