my fiance (one more month till she's the wife) is scared of handguns. she has her own rifle to hunt with and likes to shoot that, does not mind that i have handguns, but is not comfortable at all with handguns herself. I do not want to force anything on her that she does not care for, but there are times when i will not be at home, and when she is on the road that having a handgun, and knowing how to use it would come in handy. she is young and pretty, and could not beat her way out of a wet paper bag. if anybody needs to learn how to defend herself, it is her. i am concerned for her safety. not that i think anything will happen, but if something did, i would want her to be able to defend herself. anyway, i have tried to get her to shoot my .22 pistol. i figured, not too loud, no kick, she might see me shoot that and maybe we could work our way up. maybe to a 9mm or a .38. she is just scared to death of them. i have tried being rational and telling her the reasons she needs a handgun, but no success. any of ya'll had similar situations?