Just to illustrate what I was trying to get at earlier, I'm gonna pick on one thread in particular.
Are we trying to be PC here? How many posts do we read that start out with "my husband does not want me to have a gun for SD"?!?
Not as many, since THR is like 99% male and we insist on running off as many female members as possible by telling them that they're inherantly not as good as we are. Oh, we don't do it on purpose, but let's keep reading.
And also, as somebody that works in a gunstore and teaches CCW to about 100 people a month, I've heard about husbands not wanting wives to have guns a couple of times a month.
I disagree, but not entirely. It is both. I believe men are much more prepared, mentally, to confront an attack.
That is a matter of societal conditioning rather than anything based on chromosones or estrogen. Speaking as a guy who gets to be OpFor a whole lot, the average ANYBODY is not mentally prepared to confront an attack. I make pretty good money carving people up with a rubber knife in various role plays, and these are people that have already made the decision to carry a gun.
That DOES NOT mean that a woman who sees her child being threatened will not fight to the death.
Negative. It has nothing to do with sex. Nor does it have anything to do with wanting to protect a 3rd person. The idea of the "Momma Bear" is great and all, but I teach more single women than I do moms. Once again, these are the people that have made the decision to carry a gun.
It means that she does not think about it like a man, nor does she prepare for it in advance quite like a man.
Wrong again. You haven't met my wife.
You're playing with broad stereotypes. We're talking about individuals.
Women are not comfortable with the idea of fighting or defending one's life with deadly force (and I can't totally say that I blame them either).
Another false stereotype. Some of the most serious students I've ever seen have been female. Zero hesitation, only a moment of calculation, and then they drop the hammer.
And I've taught men who choke, and freeze, and then start to cry...
We're talking about individuals. You can't use a brush so incredibly broad that it paints half the world. It just don't work.
The action of self-defense is a very serious topic.
Which is exactly why I'm going through you post and ripping it apart, line by line. It is nothing personal.
We are talking about the taking of another's life, in order to save our's or another's life/lives.
Which is exactly why this is a serious topic, that needs to be addressed with reality, instead of old stereotypes. Frankly, this post has as many assumptions and wishful thoughts as the OP's girlfriend.
Couple that with a woman who has no experience with guns, outside of movies and media,
We have men on this board, who own guns, carry guns, and still think a .45 has more "knock down power". I have much better luck teaching reality to female students then men because they, on average, haven't been as imersed in action fantasy BS movies.
and you have someone who SEEMS like she does not want to defend herself. However, put her in a position of having a child who depends on her for safety and the viewpoint changes, to varying degrees.
Once again, wishful thinking and stereotypes. Maybe it will, maybe it won't.
Now the flip-side... Suggest going shooting, to a man who has no experience with guns, and you will possibly have a range partner.
I know a little tiny bit about this, as I've taught several hundred people to shoot, and the guys in my organization have taught thousands. One of my guys is the busiest hunter safety instructor in the state.
If you invite a woman, it is just like inviting a man. You make it fun. You start them with a .22. You emphasize safety and awareness.
Shocking, I know, but women do like to shoot too.
I did not grow up around guns. I met my first friend who carried only 2 and a half years ago. I asked "why do you carry?" and he answered. It took about a 10 minute conversation to convince me that, "yes, it is a good idea to be able to defend yourself".
Okay, good. That's awesome. I've had even shorter conversations with women. "You can carry a gun, legally?" "Yes." "Cool. How do I do that?"
I am single and I meet/date a lot of new girls often.
When I met my wife, she had only shot a .22 rifle, like once or twice growing up. Our first date was shooting pistols. None of your stereotypes above applied AT ALL. Ironically, just like the other 2+ billion females on Earth, she was an individual.
We got married.
I like to get a feel for where they stand on self-defense and guns, before I even remotely suggest that I might be someone who owns a gun.
If you're still talking about dating, I would also suggest seeing where they stand on religion, morality, personal finance, politics, humor, family, ethics, and any other thing that is important to you.
The fear of guns from women is shocking, as well as their concept of what is a suitable defense against an attacker.
Broad brush again. It has nothing at all to do with sex, and when we insist that it does, and that we're somehow superior because of our chromosones, we're lieing to ourselves. And then when we perpetuate these myths and stereotypes, we manage to offend and run off most of the women who post here, then we pat ourselves on the back with our self-fulfilling prophecy because hey, if women liked guns, why aren't more of them on THR?
I don't know about you guys, but I don't think I would hang out in a group where most of the people insisted that I was somehow inferior, and that my wiring in my brain is just wrong, but hey, you're okay, because you're different than all of the people just like you. You're one of the
good ones.
I used to hear the same thing from my rascist relatives growing up. There was one black family in my small town. I would hear my relatives talk about all of the standard stereotypes, but they liked this one family, because they were some of the
good ones.
This kind of thing is EXACTLY the same.
Guys, we're in a culture war here. The winner gets to pick if guns remain part of our society or not. It is a war of numbers. Do you honestly want to construct your arguments with the starting point that 50% of the population is too feeble to be on our side?
We're not talking about combat. We're not talking about physical strength. We're talking about fundamental basic, human self-defense.
Some of them can be saved from the "feelings of safety", but some of them are helpless without some serious therapy.
Yes, I am going to remain single for a long, long time.
Yes, yes you probably are.