Guys, please don't do dumb stuff like this...
- Thread starter Auf Grosser Fahrt
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Thank you. The op comes on here probably expecting a little sympathy for the age old male macho "let's scare the crap out of some girl with a gun" routine and a few of you suggest he is at fault in some way or hasn't raised his daughter properly? Come on.
There's no rule somewhere that says you must teach your daughter all about guns. I have a daughter and for most of her life she wanted nothing to do with guns. Trying to teach a kid, much less a daughter, about something so important as gun safety when they have no interest and don't care is almost pointless. Maybe he has a wife that want's their daughter to have nothing to do with guns?
Auf Grosser Fahrt if I were you I would have a long talk with the boyfriend about why he did what he did and emphasize to your daughter that she need not be so trusting.
BSA1
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I believe teaching your children some things is the fathers responsibility and is not best left to boyfriends.
My daughter embarassed me greatly not to long ago when a bf took her out shooting and his guns did NOT have a front sight. Now I taught my daughter to shoot correctly so I was deeply embarassed she shot a pos.
So even though I am out of work and almost out of money I just found a really good deal on a used S&W revolver that she will able to handle just fine.
Some bills will go unpaid this month but my obiligation as a father comes first.
But the real question is do I give it to her for her birthday or Christmas???
My daughter embarassed me greatly not to long ago when a bf took her out shooting and his guns did NOT have a front sight. Now I taught my daughter to shoot correctly so I was deeply embarassed she shot a pos.
So even though I am out of work and almost out of money I just found a really good deal on a used S&W revolver that she will able to handle just fine.
Some bills will go unpaid this month but my obiligation as a father comes first.
But the real question is do I give it to her for her birthday or Christmas???
danez71
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Dont mention it.... Its what I do
My wife was affraid of guns when we met 18/19 yrs ago and she already had a very young daughter of 4/5 yrs old. I'm blessed that her daughter became my daughter too.
It took a LOT to convice her that our daughter needed to know the basics.
One analogy I used was that there are more guns than pools; she realized the travisty of not teaching a kid how to swim... or at least tread water and get to the edge of the pool.
My daughter really showed no interest in shooting up until her late late teens. Now she asks to go shooting with me.
AABEN
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Well he will not reply to any one question. So it looks like he wish he had tough his girl some gun skills. I hope he has took her out to the gun range for some of dad gun schooling!
If you have guns, and have a kid who's old enough to be able to understand the safety rules, I believe it is imperitive that they at least know how to safely handle a firearm. Beyond that is up to the individual and the family. It's just like teaching not to catch a falling knife or not to run with scissors - there is a hazard introduced by having a firearm, and that hazard requires proper training to avoid potential problems.
DammitBoy
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Yes there is. If you own firearms and dont teach your children gun handling basics and the safety rules, you are violating the most basic of rules involved in parenting.
My daughter started shooting at six years of age and my son at the same age. There was no choice involved, it was a required learning opportunity.
It's pointless to make a child do something they don't want to do? Anybody with that opinion makes for a lousy parent.
Oh, nobody is trying to blame the op. He cares which is why he's unhappy. I've actually witnesed the same situation at the range. It made me nervous enough to step back from the line. It frustrated me, too.
Best solution is to take them both to the range, teach them, and have some fun!
Best solution is to take them both to the range, teach them, and have some fun!
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This!
and, re a previous post, not sure that smacking the boyfriend upside the head is any less of a sin then him handing her the weapon.
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danez71
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I'd like to think it was a little more High Road around here... but... unfortunately, two posts up from yours (post # 32 ) says this:
mgmorden
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Depending on the ages of those involved (which we still haven't verified), his actions may not have even been illegal. Assault and battery certainly IS illegal regardless of the ages.
Chest-thumping "I'hda slapped em!" might be great on the internet but in real life its a quick way to land yourself in jail (and depending on state laws regarding possible sentence lengths, could get you into "prohibited person" territory regarding firearms ownership).
All this boils down to the age of the daughter really. Under 18? Don't let her hang out with anyone taking her out shooting without your knowledge or consent. Over 18? Sorry, she chose a crappy teacher when it comes to guns (and you might offer some better instruction) but who she hangs out with and what they do is pretty much her decision now. People beyond that age to a large extent are like an arrow that's already flown. You decided the direction, but any chance you had to change it has already past.
krupparms
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Teaching you're kids how to handle guns at a early age is very important! Just like swimming! When do you want them to know? After something like this? All 3 of my kids knew gun safety by 6 &were shooting by 7! It was the responsible thing to do. Not everyone feels or thinks about it. Which is a shame, we might see less A.D.s if they did! To OP, We all make mistakes in life! Maybe a talk with the ' Kids ' will open the possibly that you can go shooting with them &make sure they get it right! Even if they breakup, they will aleast be safer shooters. Have a talk about responsible actions, it won't hurt! Good luck, be safe & have fun!
Overall a little too "low road", and I don't see any reason to spend time trying to clean it up. So we're done.
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