Frank4711
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She Buy's Doll's, I buy Guns...Don't ask...Don't tell
How many of you have bought rifles w/o telling your wife...?
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browningguy
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I don't hide mine, but I certainly don't make a big deal out of buying a new one. She was in a shop with me one day when picking up ammo and I bought one while she waited, she didn't like the wait but really didn't care if I bought a gun or not.
And you need a long range rifle for shooting F class competition.
And you need a long range rifle for shooting F class competition.
Kymasabe
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Long time ago I told my wife I was buying one gun a year for the rest of my life, buying around the time of my birthday.
Here are some suggestions: Buy one wood stocked rifle or shotgun and one black rifle or shotgun. Let her see them out.
Now...you've opened the door to a lifetime of wood and black. My wife can't tell the difference from one gun to another, just the color of the stock. All black rifles look the same and all wooden stocks look the same.
Yes, all my handguns are black as well.
My ammo is shipped to my office with my company name on it, if caught, I usually say it's tools or material.
Here are some suggestions: Buy one wood stocked rifle or shotgun and one black rifle or shotgun. Let her see them out.
Now...you've opened the door to a lifetime of wood and black. My wife can't tell the difference from one gun to another, just the color of the stock. All black rifles look the same and all wooden stocks look the same.
Yes, all my handguns are black as well.
My ammo is shipped to my office with my company name on it, if caught, I usually say it's tools or material.
rioalumni05
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i accidently left a box of 30.06 ammo on coffee table one day, and my wife came in and picked them up. she said " you dont have this kind of gun", my reply was "yeah ive had it for a LONG time". haha... shes ok with me buying stuff as long as bills are paid
black_powder_Rob
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too many
ThomasT
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First off, women are some of the best observers ever made. The FBI can't train their agents to observe as well as the bone stock female. They miss nothing. Those of you who think your wife doesn't know how many guns you have are fooling yourselves.
They know what you have and don't care. Your home. Not in a Bar. Your sitting in front of your computer and think your smart about hiding guns. Trust me they know.
My wife knows how many guns I have. I have never made it a secret. I don't hide it. I have my money and I pay all the bills. If I want something I buy it. I don't have to ask or sneak around. The same thing with my wife. We are past fighting about money. Besided she figured out that I normally make money if I sell a gun. I never lose money.
I also have a "Gun Fund". It has taken me years to build. I can buy just about any firearm I want. No money comes from the household account for guns. It works for me and I am happy with our system.
And to answer the OP I have never bought a gun and not told my wife. I may not have mentioned it. Is that the same thing?
They know what you have and don't care. Your home. Not in a Bar. Your sitting in front of your computer and think your smart about hiding guns. Trust me they know.
My wife knows how many guns I have. I have never made it a secret. I don't hide it. I have my money and I pay all the bills. If I want something I buy it. I don't have to ask or sneak around. The same thing with my wife. We are past fighting about money. Besided she figured out that I normally make money if I sell a gun. I never lose money.
I also have a "Gun Fund". It has taken me years to build. I can buy just about any firearm I want. No money comes from the household account for guns. It works for me and I am happy with our system.
And to answer the OP I have never bought a gun and not told my wife. I may not have mentioned it. Is that the same thing?
"It is our money not my money or her money. There are rules in a successful marriage if you expect it to last."
How does 17 years and still going just as strong sound? In fact I dont buy many guns, but that is simply because I dont see any need to own so many, just those I really have a great interest in for a specific purpose. Buying anything on my part does not require justification or permission, she trusts my judgement beyond anyone else in the world, simply because a sucessful relationship requires this kind of trust, or it wont last.
"I guess you either are not married or a "real" man whose woman is bare foot and pregnant in the kitchen and believe women should be seen and not heard "
Knowing many many married men like myself and others, I also know most of them do not require permission or justification to purchase anything the want, some that buy expensive boats, ATVs, motorcycles, cars, guns, etc etc. These wives trust their husbands to make proper judgements and decisions, again most important in a relationship, trust.
We, as a married couple have separate bank accounts, but we know what each other has and benefit from both, we have nothing to hide, why should we? I pay for the house which is in my name and has been, I pay the biggest bills, and alot more, she pays a few bills by her own choice.
Simply put we hide nothing from each other, and never have, but we have trust in each others judgement, if any question, we discuss the subject.
Some couples place one partner in charge of finances, one in charge of other responsibilities. Some couples cannot function as a couple without the wife being in complete control of the money 24/7, this tells me that the wife does not trust her husband, or his judgement.
I have bought most of my guns, multiple cars, my cycle, and many other things in the time we have been together, none having to ask for her permission, but she knows about all of these, and never questions any of it.
Maybe this isnt a question about wives knowing about our spending on guns, or ammo, but maybe questioning deeper concerns by comparing others relationships.
Basically if you fulfill your responsibilities, pay what needs paid, dont overspend your budget (should be common sense to anyone), no one should question or limit your spending on hobbies, especially your wife.
How does 17 years and still going just as strong sound? In fact I dont buy many guns, but that is simply because I dont see any need to own so many, just those I really have a great interest in for a specific purpose. Buying anything on my part does not require justification or permission, she trusts my judgement beyond anyone else in the world, simply because a sucessful relationship requires this kind of trust, or it wont last.
"I guess you either are not married or a "real" man whose woman is bare foot and pregnant in the kitchen and believe women should be seen and not heard "
Knowing many many married men like myself and others, I also know most of them do not require permission or justification to purchase anything the want, some that buy expensive boats, ATVs, motorcycles, cars, guns, etc etc. These wives trust their husbands to make proper judgements and decisions, again most important in a relationship, trust.
We, as a married couple have separate bank accounts, but we know what each other has and benefit from both, we have nothing to hide, why should we? I pay for the house which is in my name and has been, I pay the biggest bills, and alot more, she pays a few bills by her own choice.
Simply put we hide nothing from each other, and never have, but we have trust in each others judgement, if any question, we discuss the subject.
Some couples place one partner in charge of finances, one in charge of other responsibilities. Some couples cannot function as a couple without the wife being in complete control of the money 24/7, this tells me that the wife does not trust her husband, or his judgement.
I have bought most of my guns, multiple cars, my cycle, and many other things in the time we have been together, none having to ask for her permission, but she knows about all of these, and never questions any of it.
Maybe this isnt a question about wives knowing about our spending on guns, or ammo, but maybe questioning deeper concerns by comparing others relationships.
Basically if you fulfill your responsibilities, pay what needs paid, dont overspend your budget (should be common sense to anyone), no one should question or limit your spending on hobbies, especially your wife.
TCB in TN
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A little trick I picked up from a buddy, I haven't used it very often, but it really cuts down on lots of questions. Take a pistol or rifle out of the safe, and mention that you are thinking about trading this one off. Come back in with new one (leaving the old one in the trunk) and talk about how great a deal you got. Wait until later to slip the old one back into the safe.
Fred Fuller
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Only the ones I buy for her as surprise gifts... just marry a shooter and you don't HAVE to lie. 
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mustachio
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guilty as charged however I never buy one unless I sell or trade one. Therefore, no increase in the number of toys, just a different one.
Coal Dragger
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I did once. It was a glorious week on the couch, but worth it in the end.
You haven't seen the end yet. There will be more repercussions for your marriage than you have seen. I hope the rifle was worth losing the respect and trust of your wife.
Who wants to be in a marriage where a spouse hides things from the other? Not me. If my wife bought a $500+ item and hid it from me I would be LIVID. I'm damn sure not going to do the same thing to her.
Some of you guys need to grow up.
Brian41
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since my wife is in grad school and i work for a ministry full time (=crappy pay check) we're tight budget wise. We litterally each have a $50 per month spending allowance.
BUT given the potential (in my opinion) for SHTF coming soon, i've dropped based on our budget some serious cash on a few firearms and a bunch of ammo the past 3 months. BUT I've done it all by selling other stuff on craigslist, or by working extra jobs. And since she doesn't "understand why we need more guns, you have seven already"... i make sure to do things like use some of that money i get selling things and working extra jobs to buy her clothes, and take her to cirqu de soilel tonight.... which is $120 buck i could have REALLY found a better use for...
bottom line, my #1 responsibility is taking care of her, in my mind part of that responsibility is the guns and ammo, in hers its the other stuff... both are equal importance. If you love someone the things that are important to them will be important to you because THEY Are important to you.
BUT given the potential (in my opinion) for SHTF coming soon, i've dropped based on our budget some serious cash on a few firearms and a bunch of ammo the past 3 months. BUT I've done it all by selling other stuff on craigslist, or by working extra jobs. And since she doesn't "understand why we need more guns, you have seven already"... i make sure to do things like use some of that money i get selling things and working extra jobs to buy her clothes, and take her to cirqu de soilel tonight.... which is $120 buck i could have REALLY found a better use for...
bottom line, my #1 responsibility is taking care of her, in my mind part of that responsibility is the guns and ammo, in hers its the other stuff... both are equal importance. If you love someone the things that are important to them will be important to you because THEY Are important to you.
czarjl
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My wife knows about what I have. I made her a list with all the important info and pictures (so she could figure out what is what) incase I’m deployed or something less fun. She has taken some interest in shooting but not so much the guns, she really likes to knock cans over with the 22. The loop hole to all this is part of my collection is still at my parents and she only know that I have a “some” guns there. So when add to the collection usually it goes to my parents first (added bonus is if I leave it there long enough Dad will most likely completely strip and clean it for me).
As for money to buy more goodies, I save up my discretionary spending money and buy what I want when I have the ability. She won’t say anything about that because she know if she wants something I will spend that money on her or our daughter first.
I won’t hide them from her or lie about my guns to her, but I won’t brag about getting a new one either.
As for money to buy more goodies, I save up my discretionary spending money and buy what I want when I have the ability. She won’t say anything about that because she know if she wants something I will spend that money on her or our daughter first.
I won’t hide them from her or lie about my guns to her, but I won’t brag about getting a new one either.
bang_bang
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My girlfriend of almost 4 years knows better. Most of that is my fault.
I got her interested in guns, hunting, fishing so anything that's purchased is quickly noticed. She hates it when I get interested in a gun, unless it's pink and she can shoot it too....(she really likes the pink framed Walther .22lr)
On the bright side, later on down the road when money becomes more plentiful, a purchase might not be just for me, but for both of us to enjoy.
Just a quick hint to all the other guys who has wives or girl friends who dislike gun buying for any random reason: put a change jar in a drawer with gun stuff or in the gun safe. Put any spare change that's left in your pocket at the end of the day in it. After a year or so, you'll have enough to purchase a nice supply of ammo or even a Mosin.
I got her interested in guns, hunting, fishing so anything that's purchased is quickly noticed. She hates it when I get interested in a gun, unless it's pink and she can shoot it too....(she really likes the pink framed Walther .22lr)
On the bright side, later on down the road when money becomes more plentiful, a purchase might not be just for me, but for both of us to enjoy.
Just a quick hint to all the other guys who has wives or girl friends who dislike gun buying for any random reason: put a change jar in a drawer with gun stuff or in the gun safe. Put any spare change that's left in your pocket at the end of the day in it. After a year or so, you'll have enough to purchase a nice supply of ammo or even a Mosin.
Good thread I have often wondered about it, my wife does not know I own guns yet and if she does she does not ask, so I have not had to lie about any purchases, which my last wo of 2008 and will be for awhile is a Walther PPK/S and a Colt m4 carbine which I have always wanted, might not shoot it but I have it, as when I got my Henry Rifle which is still unused.
She isn't interested in every single gun purchase I make. She knows there are a bunch in the big safe and knows where the "always loaded" ones are if the need arises. She also knows they are about the only thing either of us has bought (except houses) that are still worth anywhere near as much as was paid for them, maybe more.
I think the big point that makes this either a non-issue or a big deal is how tight money is in the household. I am not spending the grocery/retirement/gas bill/college fund/mortgage money by any means.
The original question was have you bought without telling her (yes, usually), that is not the same as the "hiding" that some have described.
Bradco- she really should be told there are guns in the house, even if they are locked up.
I think the big point that makes this either a non-issue or a big deal is how tight money is in the household. I am not spending the grocery/retirement/gas bill/college fund/mortgage money by any means.
The original question was have you bought without telling her (yes, usually), that is not the same as the "hiding" that some have described.
Bradco- she really should be told there are guns in the house, even if they are locked up.
Ben Shepherd
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Back when I was married, guns and finances were two things we never really fought about. As long as the money was there, I could go for it. And usually, if it was under 10 lbs. and had less recoil than a 308 or 357, she wanted one too.
LOL i bought one it sat in the closet for months i never shot it, ended up trading it for a chinker SKS. told her I traded one of my guns for it (as i was bayoneting the imaginary enemy in our living room) and she never knew the differnce!!
i must say im very guilty of this lol i have several stories. she doesnt know what i have or how many guns i have but, she here latley she can tell if its a new gun or not. so she is catching on to my tricks:banghead:
i must say im very guilty of this lol i have several stories. she doesnt know what i have or how many guns i have but, she here latley she can tell if its a new gun or not. so she is catching on to my tricks:banghead:
orvpark
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"My wife and I have seperate but equal "spending money" budgeted into our finances. She uses hers for shoes, makeup, electronics, and other girly stuff. I save mine for whatever I want. (oh yeah, any time we go out to eat we use MY spending money, not hers!! doh!) "
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I buy sell trade all the time she doesn't know and doesn't care, I don't care how much "crap" she buys either. If I sell a $500 gun, that is MY money. Every now and then something comes up and I get into my stash for household items but that is OK by me. Don't gripe about what she buys and the favor should be returned. If it isn't you should trade her in!
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I buy sell trade all the time she doesn't know and doesn't care, I don't care how much "crap" she buys either. If I sell a $500 gun, that is MY money. Every now and then something comes up and I get into my stash for household items but that is OK by me. Don't gripe about what she buys and the favor should be returned. If it isn't you should trade her in!
When I finally decided to get a safe
I finally had to come clean. My wife was looking at 10 gun safes and I was looking at 45 gun safes. I told her we could get either but the only way that that the smaller safe could keep my little girl from getting into all my guns was if we locked her in it.
I finally had to come clean. My wife was looking at 10 gun safes and I was looking at 45 gun safes. I told her we could get either but the only way that that the smaller safe could keep my little girl from getting into all my guns was if we locked her in it.
Whatever works in YOUR marriage. Who's to say what works for two people? There's certainly no rule that works for everyone.
My wife and I have a $1,000 guideline - if it is more than that, we check. Never been an issue with a gun when I did exceed that amount. She was with me when my first Cooper followed me home and said "get it if you want it". We even have a clause for "emergencies"!
Besides, I got my wife a new Model 60 for Christmas. Nothing says "I love you" like a Smith & Wesson!
Also, if I sell I can buy - even more than the $1,000 rule.
Bob
My wife and I have a $1,000 guideline - if it is more than that, we check. Never been an issue with a gun when I did exceed that amount. She was with me when my first Cooper followed me home and said "get it if you want it". We even have a clause for "emergencies"!
Besides, I got my wife a new Model 60 for Christmas. Nothing says "I love you" like a Smith & Wesson!
Also, if I sell I can buy - even more than the $1,000 rule.
Bob
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