Husband doesn't like me packing!

[bean357]

Howdy all,
I've seen some of the guys mention that their wives may question them carrying, but I have that situation in the opposite. My husband knew I wanted to legally carry, and was going through the process to acquire a permit. He said then he didn't think I needed one, but knew I was determined.
I started off by contacting our Sheriff, as I wanted to obtain the permit at a time when MN was in "may issue" status. I spoke with our Sheriff to find out if I would be able to get a permit, and found out he would issue me one. I then began searching for a carry course. Disappointing as it was, all my leads fizzled as the instructors near us had ceased offering courses, wanting to wait to see if things went back to "shall issue". I then found some info here on THR regarding Joel Rosenberg's course. I contacted Joel, and found him to be extremely accomodating. A course was set up in my area. I completed Joel's course (which I would highly recommend..it was superb!!) and went through the remaining steps/paperwork necessary to attain the permit to carry. I received my permit. Now, my husband (whom I love very dearly) does not seem to support me actually "using" it, and thinks I am being silly and paranoid.
Yesterday, we were going to St. Cloud and on to the new Cabela's in Rogers to do our Christmas shopping. Just prior to leaving, he asked me "You aren't packing, are you??" I did not immediately reply, so he came up and felt around my belt, where my S&W 637 was very hidden under a sweatshirt in a Bianchi #5 black widow. I could tell he was not impressed, even though he knows I have it on me most of the time.
He even tells me I am a "damn good shot" with my revolvers, yet after going through the proper process to legally carry one, he doesn't think I need to. He says he has "never been that scared". I have been scared.
But am I really being paranoid? Any input would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance!
Oh, and I might add, my husband is by no means "anti" -he is a proficient hunter, rifle shooter and shotgunner

 

[R.H. Lee]

If the time comes when the fact that you're armed saves his bacon, he'll change his tune.

 

[rick_reno]

No, you're not being paranoid - you're being prepared. There is a difference.

 

[pauli]

He says he has "never been that scared". I have been scared.

and he still doesn't get it?

 

[MICHAEL T]

I think its great that you have done this . I belive you might have hurt his ego as now you are able to protect yourself. Hey if he can't handel . I will welcome you to KY. Good job!!!

 

[buzz_knox]

No, you're not being paranoid - you're being prepared. There is a difference.

+1.

 

[Omni04]

Wow this is a unique situation isn't it? That is very respectable that you went through all that work to get your CCW. Just like everybody else i don't think you are being paranoid. Can you think of any additional details you could mention to your husband to justify why you want to CCW? Do you work far from home, go running in the morning, or live in a bad area? Congrats again!

 

[Fred Fuller]

bean357,

When your husband somehow develops the ability to schedule ALL his emergencies- AND YOURS- then he can legitimately object to your carrying. Until then, the only way to have a gun if you need one is to have it with you ALL THE TIME. Good for you for going ahead with the process in spite of his (genuinely odd IMHO) lack of support. Sorry to say it but it sounds to me as if you are more of an adult than he is.

Keep it up, and I hope you never need it. But carry a reload anyway...

lpl/nc (with a 642 in my pocket since I put my pants on this AM)

 

[V4Vendetta]

Tell him that being scared has nothing to do with it. It's being smart. There are only 150,000 cops in America. These include deskclerks so there are far fewer than 150,000 actually out patrolling for baddies. There is only 1 cop on duty for every 1,813 people. Tell him that you love him & let him know that having a gun shows that you love him. Tell him that if he loves you, he would get one as well. If he still doesn't listen, threaten to invite your mother over for a 6 month visit.

 

[The-Fly]

sounds like he has an ego problem cause you no longer "need" him to protect you. Hell with him, pack away girl.

 

[SpookyPistolero]

Yup, fear and emotion don't enter into it. Logic is all you need to understand in order to justify being armed. That, and believing your life is worth keeping out of harms way.

Seems like he thinks he knows what's best for you and is trying to implement that belief. No more acceptable in a marriage than in a government.

Time for a quiet, logic-filled sit down, in my book.

 

[bean357]

Wow! Thank you all for the replies!!

Omni-
I do go walking and live in a rural area. Have two dogs, a GSP and a large lab, but the lab would probably lick a person to death before attacking. I have had issues that have been work related, given the fact I work directly with offenders. Some of them see me as just another "bad guy"...and it's not hard to find out where someone lives. We have also had a significant increase in meth problems in the area, and the craziness related to it.

Tell him that you love him & let him know that having a gun shows that you love him. Tell him that if he loves you, he would get one as well. If he still doesn't listen, threaten to invite your mother over for a 6 month visit.

LOL!! That ought to do it!!

 

[grnzbra]

:banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
Sounds like Jim "Just call 911" Brady
:banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:

 

[fisherman66]

Husband doesn't like me packing!

I'd bet my wife would love to see me packing.

Au revoir, adios, إلى اللّقاء , adeu, auf Wiedersehen, До свидания

What's that Paul Simon song?

 

[bean357]

V4Vendetta,

I wanted to add--very interesting stats! Do you think you could point me in the direction you got them?

 

[hso]

We don't wear seatbelts out of fear nor do we have smoke alarms and fire extinguisher in our homes out of fear. We do this because we're trying to control improbable but catastrophic incidents. It would be nice if we had the roads cleared of other drivers when we travel or had a couple of firemen hanging around the house all the time, but that's just not practicable. The same applies to carrying a firearm. You can no more have him or an LEO with you at all times than having the firemen in the kitchen and this is why you've tired to prepare for this very low probability event that could have catastrophic results if left to chance.

 

[markdaniel]

I see you have 2 children tell him you are also prepared to protect them when he isnt there to do so. I cant think of a better reason to carry.

 

[TallPine]

Congratulations, bean357!

Shame on your husband
(actually, I could say worse things than that but not on THR )


BTW, am I wrong or do I detect a bit of Celtic in your THR nickname?
bean357 ?= "357 woman"

 

[Tomcat1066]

I WISH my wife would carry, but she's just acknowledged a need for a pistol, so I should just remember that babysteps are the key.

Bean, personally I think you should be commended. I agree that it sounds like your husband's ego got hurt. He probably feels that he's the protector, yet you have shown you don't need his protection. Personally, I'd tell him to deal with it and get over it, but that's just me

Tom

 

[Darth Ruger]

Can you think of any additional details you could mention to your husband to justify why you want to CCW? Do you work far from home, go running in the morning, or live in a bad area?

That doesn't make any difference. Trouble can happen any time, anywhere. How many stories have we all heard about a robbery/rape/assault that happened in a nice area, close to home, in the home, etc? You don't need to live in a bad area, have a dangerous job, or walk alone at night to become a victim due to lack of a means of self-protection.

When your husband somehow develops the ability to schedule ALL his emergencies- AND YOURS- then he can legitimately object to your carrying.

Even then, he still can't legitimately object to her carrying, as it's her right to have the means to protect herself regardless.

I work directly with offenders. Some of them see me as just another "bad guy"...and it's not hard to find out where someone lives. We have also had a significant increase in meth problems in the area, and the craziness related to it.

And he still questions it?
Here's a website he might enjoy: Marilyn's non-violent planet




Why do you carry a spare tire in your car? Do you expect to get a flat tire every time you drive somewhere? No. But you carry one anyway, just in case.
How simple can it be?

 

[Hypnogator]

I have had issues that have been work related, given the fact I work directly with offenders. Some of them see me as just another "bad guy"...and it's not hard to find out where someone lives.

That right there is ample reason to arm yourself.

He says he has "never been that scared". I have been scared.

I've never been scared, either. But I carry all the time. It isn't about being scared, it's about being prepared.

Oh, and I might add, my husband is by no means "anti" -he is a proficient hunter, rifle shooter and shotgunner.

There are a lot of gunowners who don't think people should carry guns to protect themselves. If all gun owners would contact their elected representatives in opposition to every gun control law proposed, they wouldn't stand a chance of passing.:banghead: :banghead: :banghead:

Keep carrying. If you never have to use it, but it makes you feel safer, it's well worth it. And remember, it's always better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

If I ever get any training contracts in MN, I'll contact you by PM. If you'd like, I'll run you through a course of judgmental shooting training while I'm at one of the departments nearby.

 

[bean357]

And remember, it's always better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

If I ever get any training contracts in MN, I'll contact you by PM. If you'd like, I'll run you through a course of judgmental shooting training while I'm at one of the departments nearby.

The first part is what I keep telling him...
on the training,
Thank you!!! That would be very much appreciated!

 

[bean357]

THANKS, everyone, for your input and advice, as well as encouragement!

BTW, am I wrong or do I detect a bit of Celtic in your THR nickname?
bean357 ?= "357 woman"

Yep, like my revo's!!

Markdaniel-yes, they are our "kids"

After seeing the some of people and their actions in the mall yesterday, I thought maybe my husband would reconsider why I wanted it "shopping". The only time he ever goes to the mall is once a year-Christmas shopping.

 

[TexasRifleman]

Oh, and I might add, my husband is by no means "anti" -he is a proficient hunter, rifle shooter and shotgunner

With all due respect, he IS anti..... the Second Amendment isn't about hunting.

Stick up for what you believe, and good luck.

 

[Zundfolge]

...my husband (whom I love very dearly) does not seem to support me actually "using" it, and thinks I am being silly and paranoid...

Is that it or is he one of those men who doesn't want his woman to be his equal (or even worse his superior) but he doesn't want to carry.

Does he also want you to walk 3 paces behind him?

Oh, and I might add, my husband is by no means "anti" -he is a proficient hunter, rifle shooter and shotgunner

OH ... he's one of THOSE