ShooterMcGavin
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I am posting this just to share my experience. I'm sure I did not handle this perfectly, and I am open to critique or ideas from you.
I went out dancing last night and met a couple friends there. Because I dance with girls who did not know me, I do not carry when I am there. After dancing, 3 of us went out for a bite to eat. My male friend is 41, I am 30, and we were with a younger girl. As we walked out of the building, a scrappy looking guy (black, prob mid-30s) started asking questions about the building from 30 feet away. I answered "I don't know" and turned to walk with my friends. I immediately took my wallet out of my back pocket and put it into my front pocket. As we walked away, he followed, gaining on us (off to the side) and talking to us the whole time. My friend continued talking to me, in order to give the guy the impression that we were not interested in his conversation. I was in the middle of my friends and the guy approached us, closest to my male friend. When he was about 15 feet away and still talking, he finally yelled "hey, I'm talking to you - don't ignore me". I responded "we are not talking to you - leave". He walked over to us (a wall behind us) and started getting aggitated. I put my OC in my left hand and pulled my male friend away from the guy (my girl friend was standing a couple steps behind me). He started yelling at me because I wouldn't talk to him and he made some racial comments like "you don't need to listen to me because I'm just a dumb n*****, right?". He displayed his fake front teeth by letting the "dentures" drop to his bottom jaw. I put my knife in my right hand, still folded with my thumb on the 'stud', and he asked "are you a cop?". I told him "you need to back away from us now!". He went on to say "I'm walking to my bus stop" and I said "then go". We walked for a couple steps, kinda sideways to watch him, as he followed (beside us, not behind), and then he went ahead of us. I put my knife away and kept my OC in my hand for the whole walk.
I think this guy was looking for some easy prey. I also think that he started to consider that, since I had an unknown object in each hand, I might be a little more prepared than the regular person/people he encounters on that street. We also had numbers on our side, but I don't know where his friends were hiding. In hindsight, I think I should have opened my knife quietly and kept it hidden behind my leg. I hate the thought of using a knife, but not nearly as much as the possible alternatives.
Afterwards, I talked to the girl who was with us, and she told me that she was not very concerned. I told her that a "lucky"/well-placed punch can be traumatic, had he made an attack... or, what if he used brass knuckles, or a knife?
I suspect I will hear advice along the lines of "you should have kept him at a distance". That is good advice in an ideal world, however, I don't understand that strategy very well. How?? When there are friends with me (especially a girl), I can't expect everyone to take off running with me. If I tell him "don't come closer", then how do you back that up? Even IF I had my gun on me, you can't draw on someone because "he would not stop when I ordered him to stay X feet away".
I will be avoiding that area from now on, unfortunately, my girl friend lives there. Thoughts are welcome. Take care, everyone.
I went out dancing last night and met a couple friends there. Because I dance with girls who did not know me, I do not carry when I am there. After dancing, 3 of us went out for a bite to eat. My male friend is 41, I am 30, and we were with a younger girl. As we walked out of the building, a scrappy looking guy (black, prob mid-30s) started asking questions about the building from 30 feet away. I answered "I don't know" and turned to walk with my friends. I immediately took my wallet out of my back pocket and put it into my front pocket. As we walked away, he followed, gaining on us (off to the side) and talking to us the whole time. My friend continued talking to me, in order to give the guy the impression that we were not interested in his conversation. I was in the middle of my friends and the guy approached us, closest to my male friend. When he was about 15 feet away and still talking, he finally yelled "hey, I'm talking to you - don't ignore me". I responded "we are not talking to you - leave". He walked over to us (a wall behind us) and started getting aggitated. I put my OC in my left hand and pulled my male friend away from the guy (my girl friend was standing a couple steps behind me). He started yelling at me because I wouldn't talk to him and he made some racial comments like "you don't need to listen to me because I'm just a dumb n*****, right?". He displayed his fake front teeth by letting the "dentures" drop to his bottom jaw. I put my knife in my right hand, still folded with my thumb on the 'stud', and he asked "are you a cop?". I told him "you need to back away from us now!". He went on to say "I'm walking to my bus stop" and I said "then go". We walked for a couple steps, kinda sideways to watch him, as he followed (beside us, not behind), and then he went ahead of us. I put my knife away and kept my OC in my hand for the whole walk.
I think this guy was looking for some easy prey. I also think that he started to consider that, since I had an unknown object in each hand, I might be a little more prepared than the regular person/people he encounters on that street. We also had numbers on our side, but I don't know where his friends were hiding. In hindsight, I think I should have opened my knife quietly and kept it hidden behind my leg. I hate the thought of using a knife, but not nearly as much as the possible alternatives.
Afterwards, I talked to the girl who was with us, and she told me that she was not very concerned. I told her that a "lucky"/well-placed punch can be traumatic, had he made an attack... or, what if he used brass knuckles, or a knife?
I suspect I will hear advice along the lines of "you should have kept him at a distance". That is good advice in an ideal world, however, I don't understand that strategy very well. How?? When there are friends with me (especially a girl), I can't expect everyone to take off running with me. If I tell him "don't come closer", then how do you back that up? Even IF I had my gun on me, you can't draw on someone because "he would not stop when I ordered him to stay X feet away".
I will be avoiding that area from now on, unfortunately, my girl friend lives there. Thoughts are welcome. Take care, everyone.