rainbowbob
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I am fairly new to CCW. My wife is vehementaly opposed to guns and I have tried to bring her along to accept my decision to carry for our safety. A couple of weeks ago she said she would feel safe if I carried on an anniversary trip out of town. I thought the main battle had been won and wrote exuberently about it here at THR.
Since then, my adult daughter "found out" and went balistic, making the pronouncement that I could not have my grandson over if I was carrying. This caused my wife (of 32 years) to completely recant and side with daughter.
In addition, I also have a brother who is in their camp. Last night I had a long discussion with him on the subject over a couple of beers. I knew going in that he was a self-proclaimed "pascifist". My first question for him was, "How can anyone be a pascifist in the real world?" He does live in the real world - he's a judge who sees all kinds of bad stuff every day. He replied with the old "Violence is NEVER the answer!" routine.
Right...tell that to the folks Hitler gassed, tell it to the folks in Darfur, tell it to any number of folks who have saved their own and/or their families lives by resisting violence with violence.
Yeah...violence is never the answer - except those times when it is the ONLY answer other than rolling up in a ball and dying.
Anyway...I am not getting anywhere with these folks who know what they know, and feel what they feel, and don't want to hear anything that might contradict their position. I'm really starting to feel ganged up on here.
We know that carrying a weapon can be a responsible, legal, and effective means of self-defense in an increasingly dangerous world. We know we have the right to do so.
But the family members I'm dealing with here are absolutely convinced that I am putting THEM at increased risk by carrying a firearm in their presence. They are certain that if I draw a weapon in a robbery attempt for example, I will be escalating a simple, relatively safe little robbery into a gun fight. Innocent lives (mine, theirs) will be lost needlessly. If only I hadn't insisted on CCW. I've brought this horror into their lives unbidden!
Yes - they actually believe if you give the robber what he wants - they will be on their merry way with no harm, no foul. I agree there may be times when "giving it up" is the right thing to do. But sometimes it will end badly and it is hard to know how will it go.
I am inclined to believe that, unless you are staring down the barrel of a firearm, you are better off ending the assualt with your firearm.
They are sure that these "professionals" will always be faster, stronger, more tactical than me. If approached for a robbery, there will always be one behind me and one in front. They will have guns drawn and I won't have a chance. If they don't - and I draw first - they will be able to draw and fire quicker than I can pull a trigger. The guy behind will knock the gun out of my hand and shoot me. The guy in front can simply reach out and take it away from me...
...And on and on, and so on, and so forth...
This is really hanging me up! if I respect their wishes, I will only be CCW when I am not with my wife, or daughter, or son-in-law, or my grandson. That means, for example, when I drive my wife downtown for a medical appointment, or take my grandson to a ball game. There any number of shapes and sizes of zombies in those areas - but my family is safer if I am unarmed!
So - My question for you good folks is this:
Do I resign myself to CCW when I am alone and hope nothing bad ever happens when I am with my family?
My brother and daughter have declared their homes "gun free zones". They have a right to make whatever rules they want in their homes. But that means I would need to leave my gun in the Jeep when I visit them - or go without.
They have all gone so far as to say that nobody should have to be in the presence of an armed man without that person's knowledge. They believe I should assume everyone feels as they do and that every home is a "gun-free zone" unless other-wise posted.
Should I be asking everyone I come in contact with if they mind that I am CCW? My host at every party I attend? The manager of my Uncle's nursing home? The people where I work part-time?, etc, etc.
Anyway...thanks for letting me vent. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Please don't bother with the " blankety-blank sheeple antis, victims-get-what-they-deserve, friggin gun-grabber" diatribes. That isn't going to help convert anyone, especially those people I love - in spite of their close-minded short-sightedness.
Since then, my adult daughter "found out" and went balistic, making the pronouncement that I could not have my grandson over if I was carrying. This caused my wife (of 32 years) to completely recant and side with daughter.
In addition, I also have a brother who is in their camp. Last night I had a long discussion with him on the subject over a couple of beers. I knew going in that he was a self-proclaimed "pascifist". My first question for him was, "How can anyone be a pascifist in the real world?" He does live in the real world - he's a judge who sees all kinds of bad stuff every day. He replied with the old "Violence is NEVER the answer!" routine.
Right...tell that to the folks Hitler gassed, tell it to the folks in Darfur, tell it to any number of folks who have saved their own and/or their families lives by resisting violence with violence.
Yeah...violence is never the answer - except those times when it is the ONLY answer other than rolling up in a ball and dying.
Anyway...I am not getting anywhere with these folks who know what they know, and feel what they feel, and don't want to hear anything that might contradict their position. I'm really starting to feel ganged up on here.
We know that carrying a weapon can be a responsible, legal, and effective means of self-defense in an increasingly dangerous world. We know we have the right to do so.
But the family members I'm dealing with here are absolutely convinced that I am putting THEM at increased risk by carrying a firearm in their presence. They are certain that if I draw a weapon in a robbery attempt for example, I will be escalating a simple, relatively safe little robbery into a gun fight. Innocent lives (mine, theirs) will be lost needlessly. If only I hadn't insisted on CCW. I've brought this horror into their lives unbidden!
Yes - they actually believe if you give the robber what he wants - they will be on their merry way with no harm, no foul. I agree there may be times when "giving it up" is the right thing to do. But sometimes it will end badly and it is hard to know how will it go.
I am inclined to believe that, unless you are staring down the barrel of a firearm, you are better off ending the assualt with your firearm.
They are sure that these "professionals" will always be faster, stronger, more tactical than me. If approached for a robbery, there will always be one behind me and one in front. They will have guns drawn and I won't have a chance. If they don't - and I draw first - they will be able to draw and fire quicker than I can pull a trigger. The guy behind will knock the gun out of my hand and shoot me. The guy in front can simply reach out and take it away from me...
...And on and on, and so on, and so forth...
This is really hanging me up! if I respect their wishes, I will only be CCW when I am not with my wife, or daughter, or son-in-law, or my grandson. That means, for example, when I drive my wife downtown for a medical appointment, or take my grandson to a ball game. There any number of shapes and sizes of zombies in those areas - but my family is safer if I am unarmed!
So - My question for you good folks is this:
Do I resign myself to CCW when I am alone and hope nothing bad ever happens when I am with my family?
My brother and daughter have declared their homes "gun free zones". They have a right to make whatever rules they want in their homes. But that means I would need to leave my gun in the Jeep when I visit them - or go without.
They have all gone so far as to say that nobody should have to be in the presence of an armed man without that person's knowledge. They believe I should assume everyone feels as they do and that every home is a "gun-free zone" unless other-wise posted.
Should I be asking everyone I come in contact with if they mind that I am CCW? My host at every party I attend? The manager of my Uncle's nursing home? The people where I work part-time?, etc, etc.
Anyway...thanks for letting me vent. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Please don't bother with the " blankety-blank sheeple antis, victims-get-what-they-deserve, friggin gun-grabber" diatribes. That isn't going to help convert anyone, especially those people I love - in spite of their close-minded short-sightedness.