forquidder
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- Dec 28, 2002
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perceptions
One question asks itself when I read this and that is; do your relatives generally view you now, and through the years, as a generally level headed individual who makes good decisions and can be trusted?
The whole situation seems to have gone into hysterics when, in my mind, it could have been handled in a more tight lipped, even handed way than it has. Your decision to carry is a personal one which is an extension of your own morals and beliefs, it is not a matter of consensus vote. The decisions over whether or not to carry into another persons house can be made with a simple, generalized discussion about that issue without implicating yourself. You made the decision to tell the people who don't neccesarily need to know and now you are paying for it. The only other person who might have been on a need to know basis would have been your wife and if she trusted your judgement through 32 years of marriage, I would think that your decision to carry would have been seen as a more natural progression than the apparent "off the wall" move that it appears to her (them) to be.
Concealed is concealed, physically as well as mentally. It appears you've gone too far in outing yourself to ever be trusted by them to make the correct decision on whether to carry anywhere. So it appears you have two choices, throw the CCW in the trash and put the gun back in the safe, or, carry according to your own conscience while respecting the wishes of the others who know on property where they have control and suffer whatever consequences aris from that. And if they ask in areas where they have no say, you don't need to answer, a wry smile will suffice.
One question asks itself when I read this and that is; do your relatives generally view you now, and through the years, as a generally level headed individual who makes good decisions and can be trusted?
The whole situation seems to have gone into hysterics when, in my mind, it could have been handled in a more tight lipped, even handed way than it has. Your decision to carry is a personal one which is an extension of your own morals and beliefs, it is not a matter of consensus vote. The decisions over whether or not to carry into another persons house can be made with a simple, generalized discussion about that issue without implicating yourself. You made the decision to tell the people who don't neccesarily need to know and now you are paying for it. The only other person who might have been on a need to know basis would have been your wife and if she trusted your judgement through 32 years of marriage, I would think that your decision to carry would have been seen as a more natural progression than the apparent "off the wall" move that it appears to her (them) to be.
Concealed is concealed, physically as well as mentally. It appears you've gone too far in outing yourself to ever be trusted by them to make the correct decision on whether to carry anywhere. So it appears you have two choices, throw the CCW in the trash and put the gun back in the safe, or, carry according to your own conscience while respecting the wishes of the others who know on property where they have control and suffer whatever consequences aris from that. And if they ask in areas where they have no say, you don't need to answer, a wry smile will suffice.