Carry-ers need to practice a lot more than we do.
You can read more about my background on j-frame hand conditioning by chasing down older threads of mine over in the reloading forum--but
I am going to suggest that you practice--a lot.
When I did that some years ago during a "short-barrel reloading" project I did, I shot about 25,000 rounds over a two-year period. About 22,000 rounds were in a 640, an M&P340, a 442, a 360; another 3,000 rounds or so were in a 3" 60 and a 4" 686. About 10% were standard-pressure 38s; about 75% were 38+P/38-CIP pressures, perhaps 10% were moderate 357 loads, and 5% were full-power 357s (Think 1150 fps for a 158-gr. bullet out of the 640)
When I started, five standard pressure Federal 125-gr PD loads in the M&P340 made my hand numb and the web bruised. After 6000 rounds or so, I could shoot a cylinder full of BB20A loads (38 Spl 'high pressure' 158-gr, 1000fps 2" barrel) from the M&P340 without impossible discomfort. In the course of doing this practice (with incremental loading) I not only built up hand strength, but I actually have a permanent callus and some sort of bone spur on my thumb 'base bone'--down in the pocket. Other calluses diminished, but that one change stayed. And, I find that I still have residual benefit this year, even though I have only shot four times in the last two years because of other health issues.
Like
340PD, I shoot a 640 for 'warmup' and then I transition to my carry gun, a M&P340 with the CT boot-sized grips--the grips with a recoil pocket in the back.
I am finally getting some more range time this year. Even with that serious lapse in practice and conditioning, I have found my hand is still pretty tough: I am not going through the blistering-and-bandaids routine of four years ago. When I was out last week, I shot about 50 rounds of 38-CIP-pressure 'FBI reloads' (a 158-gr running about 860 from 2" barrels) through the 640, about 30 of the GDSB135+P reloads (135-gr. LRN running 870-900) in the 640, and then went to the 340 to shoot another 70 rounds of the GDSB135+P 'replica reload.' My hand was tired, but not torn up, tingling, or cramping. My current issue is arthritis and the loss of right-arm (shooting) strength because of a torn rotator cuff and bone spur/pain issues. Fortunately, the arthritis is not bad in the shooting hand.
My goal is to get back up to being able to shoot two-cylinders, back to back, of a custom 'FBI900' load out of the M&P340. If I can't do that, I'll be satisfied with one--e.g., 5-shots-5-seconds-5,7 yards-5" group--the 'old Fuff regimen.'
You may need to learn to reload to get in a lot of practice (my costs are at most $6.50 / 50 for 158-gr LSWCs loaded to the 38-CIP standard) Meanwhile
- 1. Get a hand 'grip' exerciser and use that a lot.
- 2. Choose a desired carry load and shoot it enough to feel 'familar', if not comfortable with it..
- 3. Shoot a lot--but build up incrementally. As others said, start with DEWC wadcutter target loads if you don't reload.
- 4. Select a practice regimen that is easily repeatable--and build variation into it.
- 5. Ultimately, get familiar with your j-frame so shooting it really is second nature--at least for its intended purpose of a close-up-and personal PD gun; you don't need to practice 25-yard SA shots; practice no SA shots--do all DAO.
I went on more than perhaps I should here--but the point is, even older shooters (I am now 67), if they are not too debilitated by health issues like arthritis, tendonitis, and bone spurs, can get a well-conditioned shooting hand. If you have doubts about doing so, see your doctor and get your hand checked out--but I'll bet you can do it.
And, BTW, learn to reload for an enjoyable aspect to your shooting hobby!
Jim H.