A. I've found Nosler to be a good bullet source for pistol and rifle if you want to stick with one manufacturer. Yes, you'll have to shoot JHP in your 9mm, .357 but it's only $0.14/bullet and even less in bulk. Also, I find the Nosler reloading manual to be pretty comprehensive. I load Nosler, Hornady, Speer and Barnes for a dozen different calibers and have a manual from each company. I generally stick to Hornady for my pistols (44 mag and 460 mag) because I hunt with the XTP Mags, Nosler for my longer range hunting rifles (308, 7mm-08) because of the reputation of the Accubond and Partition bullets which are great on deer, and Speer Gold Dot and Barnes Original for my more traditional rifles like 30-30 Win and Marlin 45-70 because they are more traditional soft point hunting bullets. It's a very personal choice.
B. As for good books, you probably already have the basics so you should just get started and research as you have questions (which you will). The "everything for one caliber" books are handy but they are just copying data from the manufacturers' books. I bought all of them when I started, referred to them initially and now they all sit in the corner of my reloading room with dust on them. Buy the reloading books for the bullets you like and also refer to the load data published by powder manufacturers for comparison purposes. Hodgdon has a fantastic site if you intend on using Hodgdon, IMR or Winchester powders. If you want more initial instruction, buy a DVD on basic reloading from Midwayusa, cabelas or maybe they have them at Gander. I found that actually watching them perform the tasks is much better than a book. I believe that RCBS even has a free intro video on their website.
C. You commented before about carbide dies. I believe that most pistol dies today are carbide. However, even with carbide, you still want to lube a little, maybe every 5th case or something. Although I use all RCBS die sets, I did buy Lee factory crimp dies for all of the calibers that require a very heavy crimp -- you might want to research the same but that's probably not as important for the calibers you're looking at reloading now.
D. Good luck! I've only been reloading for 2 years and I still come on here to ask questions. You'll find this crowd to be an extraordinarily helpful resource.