Met this guy about 15 years ago and we started motorcycling together. We live in the same town, frequented the same coffee shop when we had time, and that is where we met one day. Great guy, great family. Did the sweat equity thing in helping each other with our houses.
Then he meets this girl, similar likes/dislikes, but she's a trust-fund baby who is used to getting her way. Unfortunately, soon enough they are married, and she starts in with her ideas about money, home, family, and then the guns. His Dad was a Detective with the local PD, and being the only son he received the pistols when his Dad had passed.
Now, I knew there was trouble when she offered him a Porsche to replace his motorcycle, which she was insisting he HAD to sell. Caveat: he could never get another motorcycle. He resisted that deal. We slowly began to see less and less of him, as my wife and I both ride, and we just chalked it up to their honeymoon phase and he'd come to his senses soon enough.
Then, she put her foot down and all the guns HAD to go, because sometime in her past she heard a story about an AD which caused a death. Living just across town I offered to store them for him, and we could shoot together at my range. Not good enough for her-guns had to go to a relative 250 miles away.
Now, when I do briefly communicate with him he seems angry and too troubled to take the time to catch up, if you know what I mean. It brought back memories of when I was a kid and my Grandfather's 2nd wife was rumored to be running off all his old friends from the farm. I never thought it could be, but here I see evidence in my own life of how this BS works.
Any advice from you Old Timers who been there, done that? I'm not one to spend much time figurin ways into somebody's life who is miserable, but this WAS a decent guy at one time. I call every 4-5 months to catch up, but it's gettin old, and he seems to be almost dead at the ripe young age of 39!
Then he meets this girl, similar likes/dislikes, but she's a trust-fund baby who is used to getting her way. Unfortunately, soon enough they are married, and she starts in with her ideas about money, home, family, and then the guns. His Dad was a Detective with the local PD, and being the only son he received the pistols when his Dad had passed.
Now, I knew there was trouble when she offered him a Porsche to replace his motorcycle, which she was insisting he HAD to sell. Caveat: he could never get another motorcycle. He resisted that deal. We slowly began to see less and less of him, as my wife and I both ride, and we just chalked it up to their honeymoon phase and he'd come to his senses soon enough.
Then, she put her foot down and all the guns HAD to go, because sometime in her past she heard a story about an AD which caused a death. Living just across town I offered to store them for him, and we could shoot together at my range. Not good enough for her-guns had to go to a relative 250 miles away.
Now, when I do briefly communicate with him he seems angry and too troubled to take the time to catch up, if you know what I mean. It brought back memories of when I was a kid and my Grandfather's 2nd wife was rumored to be running off all his old friends from the farm. I never thought it could be, but here I see evidence in my own life of how this BS works.
Any advice from you Old Timers who been there, done that? I'm not one to spend much time figurin ways into somebody's life who is miserable, but this WAS a decent guy at one time. I call every 4-5 months to catch up, but it's gettin old, and he seems to be almost dead at the ripe young age of 39!
