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Lying to my wife about voting....

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I have this deal with my wife who ALWAYS votes Democrat even though she is now getting into guns and CCW. There is no converting her, although I hope with time she will start to love guns more than some things on the Democrat agenda which will make her vote republican.

Anyway the deal is that since we both vote opposite, if neither of us vote we will cancel each other out...the thing is, that since I travel on election days I send in absentee ballots without her knowing. I feel this is justifiable and for the good of the country...not to mention that she couldnt find out if I voted or not anyway....I think I feel guilty that I dont feel guilty...
 
One other thing to realize: Voting is the least important thing you do to control your government. Most important is serving on juries. Also high up there are writing letters and making donations. Also joining gun rights groups, or volunteering for gun rights groups.
 
Don't think about it that way. 1 or 2 votes has never mattered as the determining factor of the outcome, so why bother voting at all? If I tell you that I'm going to vote Democrat if you vote republican, would you not vote since it's going to be canceled out anyways?Vote to take part in the process, not because you think your vote is going to be the determining factor in who wins.
 
If you are 20 and you don't vote Democrat, you have no heart.

If you are 40 and you don't vote republican, you have no brain!
 
I think I feel guilty that I dont feel guilty...
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That happens to me sometimes when I get paid to go to funerals. Accept it, move on. Don't go looking for guilt...

You feel you're making a difference. Do you feel you're lying to your wife or merely opposing what you see as an arbitrary rule? One of these things is not a good thing to do in a marriage, the other is a good thing to do as often as possible, if you really are a free man.



Oh, and I think Pax is totally right. People who cannot come to terms with other people's beliefs often default to thinking the other person is stupid or crazy or both.. She probably thought she could win one for the home team by making that truce :p :evil:
 
the only lie one should ever tell their wife is 'your ass looks GREAT in that'
 
You're conflicted between keeping a promise to someone you love and being upset that your love for someone led you to a promise that goes against your better judgement. You break the promise -- you feel untrue to her. You keep the promise -- you feel untrue to yourself. You can't "win" that way (and neither can she).

Think about agreeing to end the promise. If you can live with her having beliefs that make her vote D, then you probably can live with her votes.
 
I have this deal with my wife who ALWAYS votes Democrat
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things on the Democrat agenda
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which will make her vote republican.
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Lets start by not using 3rd grade plays on words. If you constantly refer to the party your wife votes for as "the Democrats" then you are sounding like an eight year old who thinks "doo-doo" is the funniest thing in the world. Kinda funny if the person is four feet tall, but assinine if an adult does it.

Next, instead of cheerleading the GOP, look at CANDIDATES who best represent your beliefs.
 
Switch your affiliation to a registered independent. Than you can vote for the right candidate without having to worry about "offending the political party" you joined. If more people would register as independent the two major parties would have a lot less clout. Its hard to plan a platform when you can't be sure which flavor the voters prefer. I routinely have the privilege of voting for members of either party, they have to convince me they deserve my vote. They don't get it automatically just because I chose a specific party.
 
I can't figure out why you think that by voting, you're cancelling each other out! There are usually more than just POLITICIANS on the ballot, and I'll bet that both of you think the exact same way on at least SOME issues!

My oldest nephew is now 50 years old. He was a staunch Democrat AND a left-leaning liberal until he was 40. Almost overnight, his views on politics and almost everything changed! Now he's an outspoken Republican AND a "righty"! One thing, though....he is STILL anti-gun!
 
Switch your affiliation to a registered independent. Than you can vote for the right candidate without having to worry about "offending the political party" you joined. If more people would register as independent the two major parties would have a lot less clout.
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voting for an independent is throwing a vote, especially in the 2008 election...a vote for an independent is just as bad as a vote for a Democrat, both will weakin the republican vote and increase the likelyhood of Hillary getting into office.
 
I am, in a way, going through this right now.

My wife hasn't heard a lot about Guilanni except for that the MSM tells her to think. She has expressed an interest in voting for him. Its just been a process of allowing her to see the REAL Guilanni and she has started coming around.

I'm curious. Often, people develop party affiliations based upon values or positions they percieve that party to be champion for. By the fact that you and she typically vote for opposing parties, I am wondering at how you come to deal with issues. Frankly, I could not co-exist with someone who is diametrically opposed to my beliefs on some issues. (no, I am not saying to pack and leave.)

I've dealt with differing/conflicting core values with a number of people I have been involved with in the past. Some I could live with, but in a few cases, this rift was a deal-breaker. Some of these persons I would NEVER want teaching values to my future children!

At any rate, those days are gone. Next month is my 4th wedding anniversery with the one I finally got it right with....


To answer your question--- I don't lie to my wife on major issues. ("Do I look fat in this?" type questions are landmines-- and therefore allowed.) She can expect my honesty and therefore gives it. She knows how strongly I feel about this. I'd say you guys are in a position where you need to have a lot of value-based discussions however.


John
 
I came across some boxer shorts yesteday that said "promise to vote for [insert candidate of choice here] or these stay on." You might try those.


Of course, they sell women's clothing, too, so if she finds the site I'm pretty sure the plan will backfire.

:D
 
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