Oleg said:
While that line of thinking is not very sane by my standards, seems to me it is too late to gripe about it. Having a kid in common...
I'm with Oleg on this one. Once you decided that she was to be mother of your child(ren), the moral/ethical issues changed pretty dramatically.
I would suggest that maybe it's time for you to explore the sanity in your wife's positions. Calling her positions "insane" is not helpful - regardless of whether you think that's an accurate statment or not.
Ok... so I clue my wife in on the Joe Horn situation...WHAT THE HELL?
There are a number of folks who believe strongly in self defense who might agree with your wife. Joe Horn was not defending his neighbors'
lives when he headed outside to confront the burglars. He killed two men while saving his neighbors'
property. There are sane people who would argue that lethal force can be used ethically only when human life is at stake. There are a number of sane folks who believe that lethal force can be ethically used to protect property. There are probably also insane folks who believe take both positions as well.
She says "But then you're a murderer just like him."
You will find that this is a position taken by a number of religious pacifists. There are three main Christian pacifist denominations, the Mennonites, the Quakers, and the Amish. Most Christian churches have some pacifist strains, from Catholics to Pentacostals. And many non-Christians belief systems also have pacifist strains.
There are also a noticeable number of non-relgious pacfists.
My point here is not that those beliefs are
correct, but they may be rational and
sane.
So your wife's position is not necessarily
insane.
I would suggest that - since you chose to have a child with this woman - you ought to do some reading on pacifism (either religious pacifism or ethical pacifism). One book I would suggest is the
Journal of George Fox. It's a pretty rollicking adventure - the diary of a man who generally expected to beaten with staves when he spoke the truth - as he saw it, and kept speaking and being beaten until he'd changed a country. Whether or not you agree with his religious claims (I don't), he's a very interesting writer and it's a heck of a story.
It seems to me that having chosen this woman as the mother of your child, you probably need to find a way to
respect her beliefs. If you chose not to do this, your son will pay the price. Note that I am not saying that you have to
agree with her beliefs, just that you have to
respect them.
Nothing will probably have more impact on his future choice of mate and relationship with women than the respect with which your treat your wife.
Mike