Those pits are deep enough to ruin the headspace if the bolt face is turned enough to clean it. The difference in go and no-go on a belted magnum is .004". I would bet the pits are that deep. Either spring for a new bolt (good luck on that) or have your smith clean the face and set the bbl back one thread and rechamber. No use taking a chance on excess headspace on a nearly new rifle.
No help on loading the 7mm Rem Mag from me, but those sure look like pierced primers to me, the ones that didn't blow at your 70 grain load. The firing pin strikes are burnt through. I recognize it from what my .223s used to do when tossing 69gr Sierras with 748 powder on a July day. (Fun times! )
As for having the bolt face turned down some, head space would likely become an issue, as would the life span of your brass.
Also, after seeing that you are using different head stamps, with the same load, I would think that could be a contributing factor. It's difficult to say, but different brass can often produce varied pressure results? you can get away with it when loading for handgun, but not so much with high pressure bottle neck cartridges.
That's what it sounds like. I talked with a local Ruger gunsmith yesterday, and he said that Ruger wouldn't send him a bolt. They want the gun back to properly fit the bolt. I'm looking at big money to do that. Now I have to decide if I want to spend the money, or just shoot it as is. The pics of the bolt make it look worse than it really is. I didn't have any more after that second one all the way to 71.5gr. Seems like 71.5gr is max load with no room to play in 7mm using Retumbo in that gun. Like my other 7mm, 71gr produced a .57" group @ 100yrds, and velocities of 3020fps. At 71.5gr I started noticing primer flow.I can practically guarantee that Ruger will want the rifle back to an authorized depot (or their facility) if they are asked to replace the bolt. They'll likely want to re-proof the reworked rifle with replacement bolt.