I agree the bullet should have no effect on the primer ignition. I'm also at a loss as to why the new primers work fine in the 9mm cases but are a major problem in the 380 cases.
You say they are seated correctly but you don't say how you know that? You also make no mention of a second strike with the ones that don't fire. That is usually a good indication of primers that are not seated properly. Much of the time a second strike will fire them. Did you try a second strike in any of the failed ammo?
Sorry I can't help more but I'm sure you know how difficult it is to troubleshoot a problem over the NET.