Hippie,
I have .38 Special snubnose revolvers, .44 Special 3 inch revolvers ( a Bulldog and a TAURUS) and a single snubnose .357 (all the others are 4 inch or longer).
If I carried my RUGER Speed Six, I would probably go with the REMINGTON 110 grain sjhp load. My agency issued 110 grain .357 when I started in law enforcement and we never had any complaints about it.
It does not have the fierce recoil or muzzle blast of the more powerful 125 grain ammo, but has worked well enough.
I would pass on the Bulldog, the round kicks a lot, even the old 246 grain round nose ammo and they are not very effective. If I carried the Bulldog, I would use WINCHESTER Silvertips or more likely, the SPEER Blazer 200 grain hollowpoints.
For the .357 snub nose, I might even go with a premium bullet +P load like the FEDERAL HST 130 grain jhp. It has excellent expansion, even from a 2 inch barrel. Another alternative would be a high performance boutique load like the DOUBLE TAP .38 Special rounds. The balance here is recoil and control versus power. The older I get, the more I want to avoid recoil.
The big problem is your belief in hitting the spine. Remember, it is a very thin, moving target. If you cannot buy into the argument for using a good expanding round like the HST, then aim for the head, it is at least 3 times wider. Unless you practice a lot, you may miss it as well, unless you are close up. I practice a failure to stop drill, every time I shoot, which includes at least 2 shots to the head. This was part of my agency's qualification drill and based on actual gunfights, though the worry here was the use of bullet proof vests.
Jim