Being the owner of numerous wheel guns, and hand loading for them for so many years, has for the most part, convinced me that the forcing cone issues many have reported from the high velocity 125 gr. loads is unfounded. A little research on what S&W has done on this topic also has put me at ease. I load and shoot maximum velocity 125 gr. jacketed rounds as a nearly exclusive diet through my S&W's, and most have had in excess of several thousand of these potent loads put through them with no signs or issues, be it end shake, forcing cone fracturing, or any other lossening or wear of the firearm. The .357 mag loads are H110/296, and the 38 special loads are HS6 and Longshot with all running near maxium, or maximum listed loads.
Do a little bit of research on what S&W has to say about this and I think you'll realize the issue isn't related to the 125s but more the lack of proper cleaning which in turn creates higher pressures at the forcing cone. Yes, there are other factors involving 125's that could contribute to premature forcing cone failure due to increased distance to the bearing surface allowing gases to blow by, but S&W couldn't find anything that confirmed nor dismissed this claim either. S&W has said that lead is the leading cause of fractured forcing cones because it is so difficult to remove from the forcing cone, and also because it builds up so incredibly fast. 1 or 2 cylinder's of lead bullets on a regular basis without cleaning after every couple of cylinders, is enough to start the weakening process associated with fracturing of the forcing cone. And then if you consider the average guy who openly admits he rarely ever cleans the firearm is a likely recipe for premature forcing cone failure.
Don't believe me, ask S&W about the test they did with K frames in which they ran some 250,000 rounds of 125 gr. full house jacketed ammunition through a standard production K frame. They then followed up with a test involving lead with another new K frame, and if I recall the forcing cone failed and rather quickly too. There were various phases in the testing process which included cleaning, not cleaning, cleaning after so many rounds, and so on.
The final results indicated that lack of cleaning was the probable cause of failure.