What I've learned (when it comes to finding the "right" guns for my better half):
- She is less sensitive to recoil than I assumed (she's small, I'm large; our kids are built like me: recoil is trivial compared to other events she's gone through).
- She is very sensitive to noise (baby farts three rooms away wake her up).
- She equates noise to recoil.
- High pressure rounds "recoil" more. 9 recoils more than 45; 40SW and 357Sig: get outta here with that!
- Doubling up on muffs and plugs means she burns through ammo like popcorn.
- Once we learned that trick, 44 mag and 12ga are FUN!
- Did I mention 45ACP?
- Making assumptions on what she wants, or what is best for her is usually a waste of time.
- I did buy her some shoes once...she and her friends still laugh...
- Discussing these things with her, well, she likes that...
- Ask her go go to the range, rent every gun they have and pick a gun (or two), any gun (or three). If that isn't an option, borrow guns from friends, etc.
Mine came home with a USP45C. I am not allowed to shoot it; I am expected to clean it.
Somewhere in this list there are a couple lessons that relatate, not only to guns, but also to happy marriages.