Tropical Buzz
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You're right - it is a fine line, MisterMike. For me, a reasonably brief, appraising look (followed by more subtle peripheral observation) is enough to let someone know I am alert. When I make eye contact with strangers in similar situations I usually give a slight nod of acknowledgement. Not overly friendly, but polite. Most times they nod back, sometimes not - but they are always aware that I see them and mean no harm.
A strong, confident and positive disposition can easily be communicated without appearing hostile. An experienced, ill-intentioned combatant will often recognize overt posturing as a sign of nervousness and fear. A moronic sociopath will likely see it as an insult, a challenge to his manhood or some other stupidity. A normal person may interpret it as a threat to his safety. All of them can lead to a negative result. The key is to avoid that to the greatest extent possible within your realm of control. If the other person escalates despite your best efforts, then you are forced to react accordingly (and appropriately) to the level of the threat relative to your ability to de-escalate, escape or defend against it.
A strong, confident and positive disposition can easily be communicated without appearing hostile. An experienced, ill-intentioned combatant will often recognize overt posturing as a sign of nervousness and fear. A moronic sociopath will likely see it as an insult, a challenge to his manhood or some other stupidity. A normal person may interpret it as a threat to his safety. All of them can lead to a negative result. The key is to avoid that to the greatest extent possible within your realm of control. If the other person escalates despite your best efforts, then you are forced to react accordingly (and appropriately) to the level of the threat relative to your ability to de-escalate, escape or defend against it.
