Well, this is a bit late because I've been putting off writing it, but I know that there were some people here who wanted to know how things turned out. I ended up getting a .44 after all, and also the gun that I was originally planning to get: the 8-3/8" Taurus Raging Bull. All I have to say is boy, is it a lot of fun and I'm glad I didn't get a .357.
This post will be divided into two parts: my thoughts on the .44 and my thoughts on the Raging Bull (RB).
First off, the .44. I know that the size of RB and its porting factors into this, but I didn't find the .44 to be objectionable at all (for reference, I was shooting the white-box Winchester Magnum loads). I was a bit hesitant on the first shot because I didn't quite know what to expect, but after I made sure nobody was looking I pulled the trigger and then thought to myself "That was it?" As other members have stated, the 9mm has kind of a quick lift-and-drop recoil but the .44 has more of a shove to the hands, and I like it. Kind of makes you feel alive. But, at the same time, the shove isn't wrist-shattering or liable to send the gun flying, as some might make you believe. I even did one shot one-handed. Now, with that said, I shot it while wearing gloves (thanks to a session of cold-weather shooting I found that my motorcycle gloves make pretty nice shooting gloves). I also shot it without gloves and I have to say that I did feel some of that "baseball bat to the hands" mentioned by BCRider. It's not quite as fun to shoot like that, but with gloves I could probably shoot cylinders of the stuff at a time.
So, all that to say, for those of you thinking about shooting a .44 but are hesitant because of what you've heard, don't worry about it.
Now the Raging Bull. I don't know why people look down on Taurus revolvers, because I've no complaints. The finish is not as nice as what you'd find on a S&W and I admittedly was a little disappointed at first that it wasn't immaculate, but then I realized that it's a gun, not a car, and a casting/milling mark or two isn't worth worrying about. The fit is is good and it shoots well, which is what's important anyway. It locks up tight and hasn't spit anything back at me yet, so I've no complaints there, either. I can't vouch for its accuracy because I'm not a great shot yet, but I'm pretty certain that the gun shoots better than I do.
The most pleasant surprise was the trigger. I've heard that you have to go S&W if you want a good trigger, but I can't imagine asking for more than what I got with the RB. Now, before I continue, I have to say that the double-action trigger is terrible. It's gritty and heavy and I can't imagine doing any sort of marksmanship with it whatsoever, but I don't shoot double-action so it doesn't bother me. The single-action trigger is what's beautiful. Out of the box it's nearly a hair trigger; pulling the hammer back pulls the trigger so far back that it's nearly at the rear of the trigger guard. From there just a very slight squeeze is needed to fire the round. It's a far better SA trigger than on my 9mm and I couldn't be happier with it.
In summary, I have no complaints with the Raging Bull and at least for this gun (I've never used any of their other revolvers because I know that the RB is top-of-the-line) Taurus's motto of "Affordable Quality" is true.