I deleted the offending part.
I shouldn't have posted it -- those of you calling me to task are right.
I was joking, but there's an edge behind the humor.
Even in the depths of the crash and burn part of my marriage I never raised a hand to my ex-wife, but in those moments when we were doing our best to hurt each other as badly as possible mentally I actually got a look at what could cause an otherwise sane person, male or female, to lash out.