Hammer-Ed, Thanks for the input. Is that grip in the picture on your P230 with the finger grooves stock, aftermarket, or ??? (I think that would add greatly to the comfort of shooting the P230/232.
Wilson--You know from other boards I'm a die-hard KelTec fan. Their .380 is too small a platform for her needs (a smoother, less snappy, and specifically-requested LARGER carry gun).
Calhoun-- Sorry, I know Kahr owners like 'em alot, but if I was going to go the 9mm route, we'd go with a KelTec P11. Or, a couple of 'em and a decent day's ammo for the price of one Kahr.
All-- She shot my P11 yesterday and had a bit of a hard time with the 9mm. Not terrible, and she said she was fine with it, but I could see her changing her grip around and getting frustrated that she couldn't get back on target after a shot (using Standard Wally-World StuffMart Winchester FMJ), unlike her P32, of which she is the Exalted High Ramma-Lamma.
SO, I really think the .380 cartridge (naysayers re: stopping power aside) is the RIGHT step for her at this juncture. We just need the right launching platform.
I/we're still open to input, but I bet we wind up with a Sig for her before long.