That's a bit like saying you want a vehicle with a V6 in it, which one should I get?
For action fun, there's the M&P Pro Series 5" and of course SA makes an XD-M 5" Competition model that would be worth at least looking at. The M&P line is supported by a number of aftermarket products and has a huge following for good reason. The MP40Pro 5" is just about the sweetest feeling 40 I can imagine.
For carry, there are too many options to even start--but again it depends on what you like, naturally. I carry the Kahr K40, and it is AMAZING in its accuracy and ability to make 40SW feel almost 'mushy' in terms of nice recoil. Highly recommended for a heavy duty DAO carry gun.
If you like the feel of Glocks and enjoy shooting them--there ya go.
I have to agree with poster above re: versatility of this cartridge. It can easily be loaded to shoot smoother and lighter than almost any 9mm factory ammo, yet has impressive statistics when loaded up in products such as the Gold Dots, if you go for that sort of thing. But for pure gut-bustin' fun, ~3.5 gr loads of Clays, Solo 1000 or Nitro 100 and a 180 gr cast bullet in that 5" M&P...you'll be good to go for the action games or just punching tiny little groups in paper.
Now, I just bought an EAA Witness Hunter in 10mm, and I've gotta say, it may be the nicest auto pistol my money can buy--it is, in fit and finish at least, all of what the $3,000 custom 1911s have to offer, and then some. I'd take a close look at the EAA Witness Elite Limited as a solid-block-of-steel gun for guaranteed pleasure, if that sort of thing appeals.