OK, I'm trying to unravel a 10 year old issue with my wife here, and soliciting advice.
Let me preface this by saying that my wife is a wonderful person, and I couldn't imagine a better person for spending my life with.
But we haven't ever seen eye-to-eye on the gun thing.
She doesn't ever really complain about my firearms, except when I don't clean up after myself. But she's always shown zero interest in firearms, shooting, etc. It bothers me a little, because I'd really like for her to be able to effectively use them to defend herself if I'm away. But she has almost zero practice (she's fired maybe 10 rounds of ammo since we've been together), never accepts my invitations to go to the shooting range, never expresses an interest in any conversations about guns, etc.
We were having a (rare) conversation about guns late last night, and I think I finally gained some insight in to the root issue. She made an offhanded comment during our talk about "you know why I don't like guns, they're so confusing! I mean, you have a Glock, right? Why can't people call it "Glock ammo" or whatever, instead of something point something something, or whatever caliber. That makes no sense to me. I mean, these things should be color coded or something. I shouldn't have to wonder what ammo goes with this gun, or know that this one takes seven point six two something rather, or what magazine fits with what gun."
BINGO.
She doesn't know anything, is afraid to ask for fear of looking "dumb" about it.
I said "we can solve this problem by learning about one gun at a time. You don't have to learn everything in a day."
But, she was non-committal.
Now, before I run around today with colored-dot-stick-ons to put on all the guns, magazines, and ammo for her...
... Would appreciate some input.
Any of you ever been in a similar situation where a person is against doing something because they are afraid of appearing "stupid" about the topic? (She's not stupid, obviously, far from it. I think she just doesn't want to appear stupid about something.)
I realize that this is all probably pretty intimidating for her, and my own personality quirks probably doesn't go a long way towards helping this along.
I'd love to turn this problem around and (gradually) get my wife more involved with firearms. Her organizational skills would prove invaluable in the hobby. (I often forget I've already bought something and buy more when it's not needed; powder, primers, magazines, whatever....)
Anyway, hope I can get some advice here.
Let me preface this by saying that my wife is a wonderful person, and I couldn't imagine a better person for spending my life with.
But we haven't ever seen eye-to-eye on the gun thing.
She doesn't ever really complain about my firearms, except when I don't clean up after myself. But she's always shown zero interest in firearms, shooting, etc. It bothers me a little, because I'd really like for her to be able to effectively use them to defend herself if I'm away. But she has almost zero practice (she's fired maybe 10 rounds of ammo since we've been together), never accepts my invitations to go to the shooting range, never expresses an interest in any conversations about guns, etc.
We were having a (rare) conversation about guns late last night, and I think I finally gained some insight in to the root issue. She made an offhanded comment during our talk about "you know why I don't like guns, they're so confusing! I mean, you have a Glock, right? Why can't people call it "Glock ammo" or whatever, instead of something point something something, or whatever caliber. That makes no sense to me. I mean, these things should be color coded or something. I shouldn't have to wonder what ammo goes with this gun, or know that this one takes seven point six two something rather, or what magazine fits with what gun."
BINGO.
She doesn't know anything, is afraid to ask for fear of looking "dumb" about it.
I said "we can solve this problem by learning about one gun at a time. You don't have to learn everything in a day."
But, she was non-committal.
Now, before I run around today with colored-dot-stick-ons to put on all the guns, magazines, and ammo for her...
... Would appreciate some input.
Any of you ever been in a similar situation where a person is against doing something because they are afraid of appearing "stupid" about the topic? (She's not stupid, obviously, far from it. I think she just doesn't want to appear stupid about something.)
I realize that this is all probably pretty intimidating for her, and my own personality quirks probably doesn't go a long way towards helping this along.
I'd love to turn this problem around and (gradually) get my wife more involved with firearms. Her organizational skills would prove invaluable in the hobby. (I often forget I've already bought something and buy more when it's not needed; powder, primers, magazines, whatever....)
Anyway, hope I can get some advice here.