I'm a little late in coming to this string, so if it seems I've not "waited my two minutes" I appologize.
Trent, have you considered that you may be attempting to fix a problem which doesn't exist? As at lease one other member as pointed out, she simply may not be all that interested in guns and your hobbies with them.
Couple a lack of personal interest with a full load of household work day in and day out and she's even less likely to be interested.
Add to that any perceived issues with the mess involved with it and the usual marital issues like the work/play differences between you and her, and her interest drops even more.
There are lots of ways to approach this...and so much is dependent on issues we don't have any clue about between the two of you.
However, instead of tackling this in the preferred male way (which is the head-on, "get-er-done", direct approach) you might try more subtle, indirect methods (which is the preferred female way).
- Don't make it a big issue...or any issue at all.
- Knowing your wife's OCD tendencies, be neat and meticulous about your hobby.
- Don't offer "trades" for this. They're nice, at times...but sometimes it comes across as "What do I need to do to get YOU to do what I want you to do?" (Female translation: "It's still all about him.")
- Simply make the time to do some things around the house in order to help her. And make a REAL effort to do it to her standards, or better. Not one-time-events, either...routine events. Doesn't have to be big, either. But in her world, it would be really noticable if suddenly she notices that she no longer has to deal with one thing or another simply because it gets done right without her having to do it.
- Help each other coordinate getting things done so that you can do things together. And those "things" shouldn't be focused exclusively on your gun hobbies. ANYTHING together that doesn't involve work, or the perception of work, to her.
There is no guarantee that this will eventually lead to her taking up an interest in your gun hobby. After all, if she's not really interested in it in the first place, it won't be natural for her to do so.
Don't expect "fast" results with this. But if the environment changes, then the possibility will increase that she may eventually get involved...of her own volition. Doing things "together" is important to her. But not everything needs to be done together.
Good luck, whatever happens down the road.