Tinman357
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RALPH..
OK. I'll take your intentions at face value. Read my post above for where this comes from. Really want to reduce suicide. OK. Great. Here ya go. Any taxpayer funded "help" should have staff that has a history of truly caring about the job. And I'm going to name names. MODS, if you have to delete them, then do so. One example, Kitsap County Sexual Assault Center. Claims to help victims of rape through counseling and emotional support. This is one place my daughter attended. The "counselor" could not have been less interested. Absolutely no interest in helping my daughter. She was just a name on a list to justify a paycheck. Honestly, way more harm than good. My daughter had to drive withing 1/2 mile of her rapists home to get there. Passed the guy on the road a few times. I went with her and waited in the parking lot every time. She wouldn't go alone. Did the therapist care? Nope. I got the impression she was amused by the situation.
Volunteer rape support groups. What a joke. Pandering for "donations" the entire time, every time. Here's one for you...... I'm not a big believer in "support group therapy" never have been. But, I wasn't dealing with my girls death very well. I needed help, bad. I still do. So it was a huge step for me to reach out to a support group for the parents who have lost children to suicide. I opted for a nationally known .org with a good reputation. The Compassionate Friends. Hardly. I've sent several e-mails, I've called. No response, zero. No interest at all in providing what they claim. I couldn't even get on their email newsletter list. I couldn't even get on their spam list!!. Pathetic. So, I'll have to get through this alone.
Seems like you want to focus on gun related suicide. OK. pretty small group though. About the best you can do is to make education about suicide more available. Teach the warning signs of a potential suicide. Just keep in mind, locking up a gun to prevent it's use is only going to slow down an insignificant number of those who don't really want to die but have a moment of pure hopelessness. The few that would pick up a gun that was just laying there because it won't give then the time to think about it like pills or other methods.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, a lot of suicide attempts are truly a desperate cry for help from one who does't know where the help is. Those that really decided that that's the only answer, aren't going to be stopped short of epoxying them to the floor. You can't stop a determined suicide, can't really stop the not serious ones for hat matter. They just may screw it up bad enough to succeed. What we all can do is to help them not want to. I have no idea how to do that. I lost my baby girl 6 months ago. I don't have a clue what I could have done to make her not want to do it. I do know this. People who really, truly want and need help, DON'T GET IT!! Because that help does not exist. Just a bunch of useless feel good window dressing programs that made someone feel good that they did something. No real help. The funded "resources" only exist to get more funding. They don't offer any real help. Most of the "help" I was able to find for my daughter were nothing more that somebody's tax write off. No substance.
Look into the reasons that the survivors of attempts have stated as their reason for trying. Start there. Asking a forum of gun owners how to prevent suicides with a firearm is pretty futile to me. Locking up a gun because someone is possible suicidal is an exercise in stupidity if you don't recognize the signs of possible suicide. I didn't see it coming. Her so called therapist didn't see it. Even her very expensive psychiatrist didn't see it.
Here's a bit of irony for you. Daughter's expensive shrink called me and was telling me how great my daughter was doing. "turned a corner" "Has a good handle on it" "learning to cope" "healing" all the BS buzzwords. Later that day my daughter was found dead at the end of a rope. Been there since the night before. That entire conversation with the shrink took place while my baby was hanging from a rope. Even a very experienced and highly trained professional didn't have a clue. How could a bunch of everyday guys? We have every kind of person imaginable as members here. There may be some ideas here, but it won't have anything to do with the gun.
You figure out a way to stop that and there won't be a gun suicide problem. There isn't one now. It is a suicide problem. Period.
OK. I'll take your intentions at face value. Read my post above for where this comes from. Really want to reduce suicide. OK. Great. Here ya go. Any taxpayer funded "help" should have staff that has a history of truly caring about the job. And I'm going to name names. MODS, if you have to delete them, then do so. One example, Kitsap County Sexual Assault Center. Claims to help victims of rape through counseling and emotional support. This is one place my daughter attended. The "counselor" could not have been less interested. Absolutely no interest in helping my daughter. She was just a name on a list to justify a paycheck. Honestly, way more harm than good. My daughter had to drive withing 1/2 mile of her rapists home to get there. Passed the guy on the road a few times. I went with her and waited in the parking lot every time. She wouldn't go alone. Did the therapist care? Nope. I got the impression she was amused by the situation.
Volunteer rape support groups. What a joke. Pandering for "donations" the entire time, every time. Here's one for you...... I'm not a big believer in "support group therapy" never have been. But, I wasn't dealing with my girls death very well. I needed help, bad. I still do. So it was a huge step for me to reach out to a support group for the parents who have lost children to suicide. I opted for a nationally known .org with a good reputation. The Compassionate Friends. Hardly. I've sent several e-mails, I've called. No response, zero. No interest at all in providing what they claim. I couldn't even get on their email newsletter list. I couldn't even get on their spam list!!. Pathetic. So, I'll have to get through this alone.
Seems like you want to focus on gun related suicide. OK. pretty small group though. About the best you can do is to make education about suicide more available. Teach the warning signs of a potential suicide. Just keep in mind, locking up a gun to prevent it's use is only going to slow down an insignificant number of those who don't really want to die but have a moment of pure hopelessness. The few that would pick up a gun that was just laying there because it won't give then the time to think about it like pills or other methods.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, a lot of suicide attempts are truly a desperate cry for help from one who does't know where the help is. Those that really decided that that's the only answer, aren't going to be stopped short of epoxying them to the floor. You can't stop a determined suicide, can't really stop the not serious ones for hat matter. They just may screw it up bad enough to succeed. What we all can do is to help them not want to. I have no idea how to do that. I lost my baby girl 6 months ago. I don't have a clue what I could have done to make her not want to do it. I do know this. People who really, truly want and need help, DON'T GET IT!! Because that help does not exist. Just a bunch of useless feel good window dressing programs that made someone feel good that they did something. No real help. The funded "resources" only exist to get more funding. They don't offer any real help. Most of the "help" I was able to find for my daughter were nothing more that somebody's tax write off. No substance.
Look into the reasons that the survivors of attempts have stated as their reason for trying. Start there. Asking a forum of gun owners how to prevent suicides with a firearm is pretty futile to me. Locking up a gun because someone is possible suicidal is an exercise in stupidity if you don't recognize the signs of possible suicide. I didn't see it coming. Her so called therapist didn't see it. Even her very expensive psychiatrist didn't see it.
Here's a bit of irony for you. Daughter's expensive shrink called me and was telling me how great my daughter was doing. "turned a corner" "Has a good handle on it" "learning to cope" "healing" all the BS buzzwords. Later that day my daughter was found dead at the end of a rope. Been there since the night before. That entire conversation with the shrink took place while my baby was hanging from a rope. Even a very experienced and highly trained professional didn't have a clue. How could a bunch of everyday guys? We have every kind of person imaginable as members here. There may be some ideas here, but it won't have anything to do with the gun.
You figure out a way to stop that and there won't be a gun suicide problem. There isn't one now. It is a suicide problem. Period.
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