A wife says "So what is different about THIS gun?"
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WardenWolf
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My mother has asked that a few times. So I put it to her in terms she could understand. When I bought my Tokarev pistol:
(1) It's reliable.
(2) It's accurate.
(3) I got a good deal.
(4) The ammo is super cheap so I can afford to shoot it.
Women get "good deal" and "cheap".
(1) It's reliable.
(2) It's accurate.
(3) I got a good deal.
(4) The ammo is super cheap so I can afford to shoot it.
Women get "good deal" and "cheap".
The error in many of the replies to your post is based in the assumption that you can present a logical argument to a woman.
I have since thinned my collection but 20 years ago I had about 25 long guns; there was no way for the wife to know what I had an what I didn't, she just called them "All those guns".
Of course she would ask the same question when I wanted a new one so I developed a technique to slip them in without her knowing. When I purchased a new gun I would give it to a friend and he would bring it by the house and announce "Thanks for letting me borrow this" and turn it over to me. The wife would look at me suspiciously and shrug.
Caution: this only works a few times and should be spaced at least 6 months apart! ;-)
I have since thinned my collection but 20 years ago I had about 25 long guns; there was no way for the wife to know what I had an what I didn't, she just called them "All those guns".
Of course she would ask the same question when I wanted a new one so I developed a technique to slip them in without her knowing. When I purchased a new gun I would give it to a friend and he would bring it by the house and announce "Thanks for letting me borrow this" and turn it over to me. The wife would look at me suspiciously and shrug.
Caution: this only works a few times and should be spaced at least 6 months apart! ;-)
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PurdueRifleman2008
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Hinton, I'm going to remember that one for someday!
madcratebuilder
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My standard answer "cause i don't own it yet"
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SP Shop Foreman
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Sorry to hijack my son's name here, but..............
In 40+ years of dealing, both private and commercial, the first 10 years were the intial expenditure years. After that it was lots of gun shows, pure trading or buyng an already sold firearm. Once you have a decent number of favorite types, the secret bcomes to trade straight across (not particularly desireable unless its a got-to-have firearm), trade up (preferrable) and trade 2 for 1 or more. (most desireable)
A trade has no monetary equal. If a potential trader says, "well, mine is worth".......... and that's the end of the discussion for me. A trade is something you want and something he wants. Dollars have nothing to do with it (within reason). If you out and out spent family money without a family discussion, you've made a mistake. A mistake that can eventually be a trust ender, and a trust ender usually means an eventual relationship ender. If she means that little to you, then go ahead and buy and lie.
This whole thing can be fun and even profitable depending on how you view it, but put the macho-bravado aside, talk about your deal with your wife first. If you have to wait a bit, then wait a bit. Is a new firearm worth the loss of trust? Think about it.
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In 40+ years of dealing, both private and commercial, the first 10 years were the intial expenditure years. After that it was lots of gun shows, pure trading or buyng an already sold firearm. Once you have a decent number of favorite types, the secret bcomes to trade straight across (not particularly desireable unless its a got-to-have firearm), trade up (preferrable) and trade 2 for 1 or more. (most desireable)
A trade has no monetary equal. If a potential trader says, "well, mine is worth".......... and that's the end of the discussion for me. A trade is something you want and something he wants. Dollars have nothing to do with it (within reason). If you out and out spent family money without a family discussion, you've made a mistake. A mistake that can eventually be a trust ender, and a trust ender usually means an eventual relationship ender. If she means that little to you, then go ahead and buy and lie.
This whole thing can be fun and even profitable depending on how you view it, but put the macho-bravado aside, talk about your deal with your wife first. If you have to wait a bit, then wait a bit. Is a new firearm worth the loss of trust? Think about it.
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Davionmaximus
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Oh, honey I found it on sale!!! You would NEVER believe how much money we saved on it!!!
Same tactic she uses on new clothes... learned it from her...
Same tactic she uses on new clothes... learned it from her...
woof
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Over the past 10 years I have reduced the number of guns but improved the overall quality and value. Whenever I sell two and buy one, even if I'm adding considerable cash, she thinks that's a move in the right direction 
rtn
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She never asks me questions like that, and I don't ask her why she bought a new purse, clothing, etc.
We coexist peacefully, each in charge of our own domain.
We coexist peacefully, each in charge of our own domain.
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Or just use my tactic, marry someone that doesn't mind. My wife hates the .gov and is paranoid of a zombie invasion... that = lots of guns w/out any problems.
Limeyfellow
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Unfortunately my wife is more likely to ask "you bought that for me?" and I see my nice new FAL become her's.
alemonkey
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Tell her at least you're not spending the money on gambling and hookers.
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Quite possibly the most insightful question I've ever seen.
This thread really belongs in General Gun Discussions.
Sam Adams
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A few thoughts:
We each have money that we can spend on whatever. Every time I question a purchase of hers, I get "its my money and I'll spend it as I want to." OK, but that's a 2-way street, and I've told her as much on a couple of occasions. She's more calm about it. When she isn't, like when there's no room in the gun closet for my son's clothes (it is in his room), I remind her that the shoes and other things she buys with her money are worth nearly nothing in a garage sale, whereas the guns can be sold for nearly as much or sometimes more than what I paid for them.
Besides, I have enough guns that SWMBO doesn't know one from the other, and my removal of another gun from the safe is a non-event for her (except for "you just went shooting 2 weeks ago!").
Having bought a number of milsurps, I have long been prepared with a completely honest answer: "New gun? Its absolutely NOT new, I promise." I'll never say that I've had it for a while, unless at least 6 hours have gone by (that's "a while" but not "a little while").
Now that I've started getting into casting, I'm bracing for her reaction when I put a bunch of filthy wheel weights into my new cast iron pot ($25) and cook it up with a turkey fryer in the back yard. Ooh, yeah, that one's going to be fun...BUT, I communicated to her that I was going to be casting bullets. She hates Obama with a passion, and is convinced that we're going to end up in "re-education" camps, so it didn't seem to phase her as unusual or something to object to when I casually mentioned it. Of course, I'll also be pouring molten lead into a muffin pan, and stirring up the molten lead with a big spoon. She cooks a LOT, and this is about the closest thing to sacrelige in her worldview. Yup, this is going to be interesting. And she still hasn't noticed the 175 or so pounds of WWs in the garage (they're on my side).
We each have money that we can spend on whatever. Every time I question a purchase of hers, I get "its my money and I'll spend it as I want to." OK, but that's a 2-way street, and I've told her as much on a couple of occasions. She's more calm about it. When she isn't, like when there's no room in the gun closet for my son's clothes (it is in his room), I remind her that the shoes and other things she buys with her money are worth nearly nothing in a garage sale, whereas the guns can be sold for nearly as much or sometimes more than what I paid for them.
Besides, I have enough guns that SWMBO doesn't know one from the other, and my removal of another gun from the safe is a non-event for her (except for "you just went shooting 2 weeks ago!").
Having bought a number of milsurps, I have long been prepared with a completely honest answer: "New gun? Its absolutely NOT new, I promise." I'll never say that I've had it for a while, unless at least 6 hours have gone by (that's "a while" but not "a little while").
Now that I've started getting into casting, I'm bracing for her reaction when I put a bunch of filthy wheel weights into my new cast iron pot ($25) and cook it up with a turkey fryer in the back yard. Ooh, yeah, that one's going to be fun...BUT, I communicated to her that I was going to be casting bullets. She hates Obama with a passion, and is convinced that we're going to end up in "re-education" camps, so it didn't seem to phase her as unusual or something to object to when I casually mentioned it. Of course, I'll also be pouring molten lead into a muffin pan, and stirring up the molten lead with a big spoon. She cooks a LOT, and this is about the closest thing to sacrelige in her worldview. Yup, this is going to be interesting. And she still hasn't noticed the 175 or so pounds of WWs in the garage (they're on my side).
SharpsDressedMan
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Tell her the differences are very subtle, but if you look at them side by side, you can see that this one has a longer barrel, is a different caliber, is blued vs. stainless, holds more cartridges, feels better in the hand, fits a new holster I just bought, will hold its value better, has nicer wood grips/stock, is more accurate, is easier to get parts for, etc.........
For us it's a father/son thing so it's all good as far as she's concerned.
Reminds me of the story of the guy who was collecting Garands unbeknownst to his wife. She would walk by the shop and see him in there cleaning the latest addition to the collection and would say, " Are you messing with that old rifle again ? "
Reminds me of the story of the guy who was collecting Garands unbeknownst to his wife. She would walk by the shop and see him in there cleaning the latest addition to the collection and would say, " Are you messing with that old rifle again ? "
Maybe I am lucky.
I was 32 when we got married, and I was rather set in my ways. She knew EXACTLY what she was getting when she married me.
Now perhaps that indicates a lack of critical thinking or decision-making skills on her part, but that is the topic for another day...
At any rate, she knew I loved guns when we started dating.
As she sees it, she has things that she collects such as China. I have things that I collect as well.
However, we have a simple rule in our household: We talk in advance about any purchase that either of us makes that cost over a set dollar amount. As we figure it, we both contribute to the household, and we both have a say in how household assets are spent.
Aside from insuring that we budget appropriately, neither of us has ever been denied anything we desired or needed. We just need to always show respect for one another and put our long-term goals ahead of our short-term "wants."
But like I said... Jenn's a keeper. She signed off recently on my desire to get a Class III full-auto in the coming year.
-- John
I was 32 when we got married, and I was rather set in my ways. She knew EXACTLY what she was getting when she married me.
Now perhaps that indicates a lack of critical thinking or decision-making skills on her part, but that is the topic for another day...
At any rate, she knew I loved guns when we started dating.
As she sees it, she has things that she collects such as China. I have things that I collect as well.
However, we have a simple rule in our household: We talk in advance about any purchase that either of us makes that cost over a set dollar amount. As we figure it, we both contribute to the household, and we both have a say in how household assets are spent.
Aside from insuring that we budget appropriately, neither of us has ever been denied anything we desired or needed. We just need to always show respect for one another and put our long-term goals ahead of our short-term "wants."
But like I said... Jenn's a keeper. She signed off recently on my desire to get a Class III full-auto in the coming year.
-- John
thunder173
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Had an ex wife that I once foolishly agreed that she could buy a piece of jewlery for every gun I bought,..of equal value of course. Unfortunately,..she got the jewlery,..and half the guns to boot.
Bang Head Here>......!!
....she was once asked about how many guns I owned. Her comment was that she didn't know,...but if she ever found out,...she was going to shoot the sob with the last one he brought home.
Walk lightly gentleman.
Now on the other hand,...the current bride,...she don't like jewelry,...and we buy our guns in pairs,.....
God I luv this woman!!
Bang Head Here>......!!
....she was once asked about how many guns I owned. Her comment was that she didn't know,...but if she ever found out,...she was going to shoot the sob with the last one he brought home.
Walk lightly gentleman.
Now on the other hand,...the current bride,...she don't like jewelry,...and we buy our guns in pairs,.....
God I luv this woman!!
In my case I guess to put it better, I knew the reaction I would get when I brought home the rifle, So at the same show I baught the cookie jar. When I got home I showed her the gun and she was like you dont need that(blah blah nag nag) then I pulled out the cookie jar and she stopped midsentance and thanked me profusely and never said another word about the rifle.
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