Anti-gun spouses from Heck.

[Turkey Creek]

Not too hard to figure out how we get ourselves into these messes- when some sweet little thing walks by with that wiggle that they must teach girls someplace, the little guy robs the brain of all reason- some things I have learned during my 36 year marriage and in no particular order are- 1. assume it's your fault, say so and don't worry about it- you aren't going to win many arguments and it's best to play the game and go on- 2. when the dreaded words "we have to talk" are uttered, listen politely, agree with everything she says, and then go about your business as if nothing happened- 3. generally you get what you give- the last couple of years the wife has had the kitchen and both bathrooms remodeled- my gun safe has become drastically more crowded in the same space of time- 4. we've all heard of "Shock and Awe", my battle plan is "Surprise and Compliment"- for a recent anniversary my wife arranged a night out with dinner and a room- we had made a promise not to get each other any gifts- after the wine was served I pulled a small box out of my jacket and sat it on her plate- it was a ring that complimented the ear rings I had gotten her for her birthday the year before- she said I wasn't supposed to do this and she didn't me anything because we had a promise- I told her that she did and she was sitting on it- we almost didn't make it through dinner- 36 years now and so far so good- oh yeah, as far as my guns go, she leans toward anti but doesn't bug me about it- I picked a good one despite the little guy

 

[txgho1911]

Mairage commitments and kids

I understand reasoning behind the advice not to live in before committing. I also believe that the commitments to her kids as well as herself may be more than any commitment she can ask for.
As far as wanting to PAINT the old 3 gun rack made in jr high 20 years ago to match the room. NO no time spent negotiating any middle ground. I was willing to only hang it in the closet until the shoe rack was thought up. I am still willing to hang it in the bebroom away from company. I can try to think of new furniture in the future that might match the wood grain and finnish of this gun rack. I will not allow this gun rack to be painted so no time like the present to say NO. I will sell it, give it away, or destroy it before I allow it to be painted.
Painting cannot be totaly cleanly and practicaly undone. I don't fight or argue every little point or idea I do not agree with.

Anyone want a 3 long gun rack with a shelf at the base with a dark wood grain stain. Maybe a display application for C&Rs or other inoperable pieces that deserve recognition and respect.

 

[WEPS]

When i was first married i told my wife i was planning on buying some guns. She said she would leave me if i did. I said ok, don't let the door hit ya on the way out. Sadly i am no longer married.

 

[jtkwon]

My wife was beaten and stalked for six years by her ex-husband before she met me. I bought her a 357 and taught her how to shoot.

We both carry now. She was an anti before, but she loves her pistol and would never trade the security and good feelings it gives her now.

And God help her jacka** ex-husband if he ever confronts her now...

 

[jhisaac1]

1. assume it's your fault, say so and don't worry about it- you aren't going to win many arguments and it's best to play the game and go on

You can be right or you can be happy.

 

[one45auto]

.....1. assume it's your fault, say so and don't worry about it - you aren't going to win many arguments and it's best to play the game and go on- 2. when the dreaded words "we have to talk" are uttered, listen politely, agree with everything she says, and then go about your business as if nothing happened -.....

Total submission as a practical policy seems rather unreasonable to me. After all, is she extending you the same courtesy? If not, then the playing field seems rather slanted ~ in her favor, that is.

Now don't get me wrong. I'm all for peace and happiness in a marriage, but not at the expense of my self-respect and dignity. Blame it on either my Scottish or German heritage, but there is no way in the world that I am going to admit I am wrong when I know darned well I'm right.

Perhaps George Bernard Shaw says it best; "What price, salvation?"

 

[Turkey Creek]

one45auto- you miss the point- no "subjegation" or "submissiveness" or "loss of dignity" involved at all here, illustrated by the fact that I go about my business regardless- my wife would be the first to admit that I pretty much do what I want- I like to think of it as expediency and and energy saver-

 

[elkhunter]

I am slowly getting my girlfriend used to the idea of her shooting. As for me she doesn't mind my hunting/shooting. In fact she even bought me a 629 that a buddy offered to sell to me when I didn't have the money.

However as a funny story about anti-spouses, I have a buddy whose brother married an anti. No guns in the house, whole nine yards. My buddy ended up with his brother's AR and whenever he goes to visit he says he just walks in the house and when they ask why he didn't knock he just tells them "I know you don't have any guns in the house, so why should I bother..."