Spousal gun deals; what's yours?

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My wife isn't so much anti-gun as she doesn't like them (BAD past experiences; very pre-me). It took a great deal of trust in me to accept having them in the house. Part of that was me only having four guns at a time. Anyone else have a deal with the spouse regarding your firearms?
 
Yeah....I have to let him buy one before I can buy another one. :neener:

We're fortunate in that we're both into shooting. He bought me a Beretta A391 Urika in 20 gauge for an early 25th anniversary present. I bought HIM a new Remington 700 in 30-06, with a Zeiss scope. I got my new SRH because we had a bet...if the Mets had won the NLCS he'd have gotten a .44mag first, if the Cardinals won....well, I now have that 9 1/2" SRH:D

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Well my wife doesn't mind them at all, but she doesn't understand my wanton desire to always expand my collection. So, whenever I buy a firearm, I have to give her an equal amount in cash for her 'hobby', whatever that is. I suppose it's fair enough and helps to keep a check and balance. If I want get something for $500, I know it'll cost me $1000 and I might back off for a little while. Seems to work alright, but it hasn't gotten my wife any closer to understanding why I always need more....:)
 
Only two guns in the bed room and keep everything out of sight unless in use/cleaning etc. Other than the four rules, that's all I think.
 
Hehe.....Recently my wife wanted to get something expensive and she asked if it was okay. I said well you know I did want to get a new gun honey....they have these M-1s you can by from the CMP. I told her how much it was and she said well I guess its okay. At that point I grabbed her hand shook it and yelld "double shake no take backs!" and ran out of the room. :D My order was sent in and am waiting for it to show up. :)
 
Well, my wife is anti-gun and anti-violence. She can't even watch violent scenes on TV. It stemmed from an incident that happened many moons ago in which a friend of her brother accidentally shot and killed his own brother with a handgun.

I explained to my wife when we moved that guns were widely available and that she had a choice. We could have no guns in the household and take whatever comes or have at least one and some means of defending ourselves or holding out until more help arises. A few weeks watching the news softened her up.

Even then, at first she only wanted me to have one. Then, whenever I cleaned them, she would go run errands. If we were going on a road trip, I had to 'sneak' the gun to the car before she got in and we departed. Serious paranoia.

So 5 guns later, she's much better. She's since gone to a gun store with me and looked over a range in use (via the safety partition). We practice regularly with my Beretta 96 and snap-caps so I'm sure she's comfortable with it if I'm away on a business trip.

I figure I just had to take some time to understand where she was coming from and try to address her concerns one by one. Took some time, she's not ready for her own pistol yet, but soon...
 
It is reasonable that if you are going to buy something expensive that may impact family finances, you discuss it. That's pretty simple.

My wife is ok with the guns but they don't interest her. She is interested if I can't buy something we need as I dropped $1k on a blasto-matic.
 
Probably why I'm not married yet. I really can't understand the self-induced misery of chaining one's self to a person who puts restrictions on your behavior. :)
 
my wife doesn't know exactly what i have, and i really don't think she cares anyway. as long as the bills are paid, what difference does it make?

back when i only had a half dozen or so guns, we used to argue about it all the time. but that was a few dozen guns ago, and i haven't heard word 1 about me buying guns in a few years, now.
 
My wife acquired a brand new Beretta NEO yesterday.
It was at the range in my hand. Somehow it moved to her hand and I never got to touch it again.
When we left it was in her range bag.
Now how did that happen?

AFS
 
My only 'deal' was that I already owned guns that were kept in another state, and when we got married and moved out of occupied territory, I'd be calling for my irons after my FID and 'ownership' permits came through.

The only other part is that any thing I had was kept in a safe, which for long
guns means we don't have the room. Hence I've only got pistols.

I might get a folding Keltec SUB2000 for craps n' giggles, as it will fold small enough to fit my pistol safe.

She's held my sig, but has nointerest in shooting them, or even being around when I shoot.
 
Hmmm..my husband LIKES guns (like four out of the...well...MANY...are "his"), but he's not the obsessive nut that I am. His thing is motorcycles. :barf:

The only problem we have (other than not having anywhere near enough money to really indulge either one of these hobbies) is trying to figure out how this works out for "toy buying."

Obviously, his primary "toy" was much more expensive than any of my "toys." I, of course, thought that SHOULD mean that he gets nothing associated with the motorcycle until I've gotten "caught up" with my guns.

It was pointed out to me that this was "mean." :confused:

So we try to make it work. ;) Alas, it used to work to tell him new guns were an "investment." I tried it again the the other day, and he looked at me and said, "I've known you for seven years and you've sold ONE GUN." Rats! He's on to me!
 
The only gun-related bargain I've had to make with my wife would be that when we get back from the range, I have to clean both my guns and her guns while she makes dinner. That's just smart division of labor, though. I'm a lot pickier with the guns, and she's a much better cook.

Sounds to me like you guys might have been better off marrying a country girl. (or in my case, a fellow hillbilly) My wife had her own collection of shootin' irons when we got married.
 
Only deal we have is when I get the Kimber I want she gets a 20 gauge SKB for skeet shooting.... that and I have to agree that the .380 I bought before we met is hers and she lets me sleep indoors....:banghead:
 
My wife loves shooting, and she wants a couple different guns. It didn't take anything to convince her, she went to the range with me and my boss, and she was hooked.
 
I'm not married, and we don't live together, but the only deal with my significant other that once she's off-campus, I'll buy a pistol she can keep for herself. She is an impressive handgunner and I am constantly frustrated with laws and ordinances preventing her from protecting herself. University rules, roomates who make copies of keys for boyfriends and strangers, people leaving doors unlocked :cuss:
 
My last conversation on the issue went something like this. (no kidding)

Me: "Honey I'm going to pick up my new gun."

Her: "Ok, but I don't want to see it laying around the gun room. Make sure there's room in the gunsafe, and if not get another safe before you bring the new gun home."

Me: "Sure thing."

I'm fortunate. :D
 
Don't make deals with your spouse. Tell her, this is who I am, we can do these things together and have fun together and include each other in our lives, hobbies and dreams or we should quit while we are ahead...

guilt leaves scars
 
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