Hi. I've been here on this board for a little while now, but i think this is actually my first thread.
Anyway, we see threads from time to time about "how do i get my spouse to accept the fact that i carry?" or "how do i convert my anti wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/etc...?"
Sorry if there has been a thread like this, i havnt seen it. But I was thinking it would be nice to have a thread of people who have had rabid anti, slightly anti, neutral or whatever spouses that have started to come around or who have done a complete 180 since the issue has come up in their lives. Instead of a "how do I...?" thread
I started dating my now wife when i was already into guns, and that didnt scare her away, but i learned later that she didnt ever really say anything about them because she had no right to when we were not married. After getting married, she never told me to get rid of them, but made it clear she was not a fan of guns. She knew it was my hobby and respected that even though she didnt like it. The whole, guns are dangerous mentality and the thought of someone getting hurt or killed accidentally.
I remember at least one pretty big argument and a couple of small "why do you NEED to carry a gun around with you?" types of talks. I think she thought i was "looking for trouble" or itching to use it. After i assured her that i was not trigger happy and had it for protection only (for me AND her), she still wasnt keen on it, but dropped it.
But there have also been mixed times where we will be talking walks late at night around town (i work second shift and get out at 11:00) and a few times she has whispered "do you have your gun or knife or something on you?" to which i just reply "yes".
I remeber her getting especially nervous when she was with me when i bought a holster at the local gun shop.
But since then, i have purchased and brought home another holster and when i got home she was on the phone and just shook her head and smiled real big.
She is coming around, i think. She has been shooting with me twice, once while dating and once while married. She had more fun the second time around, probably cuz it was a big group of people and we were taking pictures and such (she loves taking pictures). She will even hold my guns for me without a disgusted look on her face.
But one of the biggest break-throughs i have seen is when we were getting ready to go out a week or so ago and she walked into the room when i was looping my belt through the straps on my IWB holster with my GLOCK 30 in it, and after i snapped one of the holster straps, she reached up and strapped the other one for me!
Probably not a big deal, but yeah, i think she is slowly coming around. When my brother in law saw my carry rig he said "so you could carry it around town?" (duh! ) and my wife jokingly said "OH HE DOES!"
So lets hear your stories
BTW: It takes patience, positive re-enforcement that you are safe with guns, and dont be pushy. I still ask my wife from time to time to come shooting with me, but she declines, because she doesn't like to. But i dont nag her about it.
Anyway, we see threads from time to time about "how do i get my spouse to accept the fact that i carry?" or "how do i convert my anti wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/etc...?"
Sorry if there has been a thread like this, i havnt seen it. But I was thinking it would be nice to have a thread of people who have had rabid anti, slightly anti, neutral or whatever spouses that have started to come around or who have done a complete 180 since the issue has come up in their lives. Instead of a "how do I...?" thread
I started dating my now wife when i was already into guns, and that didnt scare her away, but i learned later that she didnt ever really say anything about them because she had no right to when we were not married. After getting married, she never told me to get rid of them, but made it clear she was not a fan of guns. She knew it was my hobby and respected that even though she didnt like it. The whole, guns are dangerous mentality and the thought of someone getting hurt or killed accidentally.
I remember at least one pretty big argument and a couple of small "why do you NEED to carry a gun around with you?" types of talks. I think she thought i was "looking for trouble" or itching to use it. After i assured her that i was not trigger happy and had it for protection only (for me AND her), she still wasnt keen on it, but dropped it.
But there have also been mixed times where we will be talking walks late at night around town (i work second shift and get out at 11:00) and a few times she has whispered "do you have your gun or knife or something on you?" to which i just reply "yes".
I remeber her getting especially nervous when she was with me when i bought a holster at the local gun shop.
But since then, i have purchased and brought home another holster and when i got home she was on the phone and just shook her head and smiled real big.
She is coming around, i think. She has been shooting with me twice, once while dating and once while married. She had more fun the second time around, probably cuz it was a big group of people and we were taking pictures and such (she loves taking pictures). She will even hold my guns for me without a disgusted look on her face.
But one of the biggest break-throughs i have seen is when we were getting ready to go out a week or so ago and she walked into the room when i was looping my belt through the straps on my IWB holster with my GLOCK 30 in it, and after i snapped one of the holster straps, she reached up and strapped the other one for me!
Probably not a big deal, but yeah, i think she is slowly coming around. When my brother in law saw my carry rig he said "so you could carry it around town?" (duh! ) and my wife jokingly said "OH HE DOES!"
So lets hear your stories
BTW: It takes patience, positive re-enforcement that you are safe with guns, and dont be pushy. I still ask my wife from time to time to come shooting with me, but she declines, because she doesn't like to. But i dont nag her about it.