Have used the ACT ALG and QMS products and find it hard to believe that they would be out of spec...their QC is top notch. No experience with that particular BAD selector...are you sure nothing is binding because it's an ambi?
What brand are your lowers? If the selector holes weren't drilled true, interference would be a distinct possibility. Are you sure that the proper detent [the "rocket" as I call it] and detent spring are installed and not binding? You didn't clip the spring, did you?
If not, my next step would be to remove the spring and detent and try to duplicate the interference. If that doesn't "fix" the problem, you are going to have to remove the offending parts and mic them to make sure they are of proper size and profile.
Have you yanked one of the selectors to see what the wear pattern is, especially in the channel where the detent rides? Are the dimples in the channel the proper depth?
"...does decocker drop hammer without impacting firing pin, etc)."
No decocker...simply a function of the disconnector properly doing its job by catching the hammer.
By the way, I'm not arguing that the disconnector should be harder to rotate to 'safe' with the bolt back...it shouldn't. Was just trying to address your range issue. Sorry if I wasn't clear.
Moving the selector to 'safe' means rotating the circular bearing surface over the tail of the trigger. If you don't find a problem with any of the above, insufficient clearance between the selector bearing surface and the tail of the trigger is the likely problem. No clearance when you have the selector on 'safe' will "lock" the trigger in place. Normally, it will still move several thousands of an inch to the rear.