De-escalation mad libs

[Siderite]

after reading an entertaining (and educational) post by herohog in another thread:

Not really a bluff but a good disarming tale: My brother and I raced dirt track modified cars (open wheel) together for years. One night, he and another driver tangled up and when they came in the pits the other guy was Steamed and jumped out of his car, threw his helmet down and headed for our pit. Tommy jumped out of his car and went to meet him and, of course, the members of the respective pit crews tagged along. Well, Tommy and the other driver met and Tommy looked him square in the chest (Tommy ain't real big) and the guy says "I'm gonna kick yer [butt]!" Tommy says "You think you can kick my [butt]?" The guy says "I KNOW I can kick your [butt]!" Tommy says "Then I guess there ain't much sense in us fightin' then is there?" and walks off! The other guy stood there for a second, smiled, laughed and that was it.

http://thehighroad.org/showpost.php?p=4831803&postcount=17

I realized that de-escalation isn't considered as frequently as armed responses (though there is a good thread here: http://thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=255619). It also was apparent that the responses for de-escalation are more varied than the armed responses, which are generally variations on the the "neutralize threat" theme. De-escalation can involve reasoning with them, apologies, humor (as above), leaving the area, appeasment, inflating their egos, just to name a few from the other thread. Additionally, the response is very dependant on the situation.

Since there is such variety, and these solutions don't seem to come up in "situation" threads, here's the drill:

Fill in the phrases in the parenthesis () to generate and solve your situation. Try to keep it realistic to something that could happen in your life (or feel free to share a story of an actual incident).

There I was, just going about my business, doing (task). I didn't realize it, but by doing (action), I had offended a group of locals. They felt that (action) meant (local meaning).

Several of them confronted me, saying (phrases, but keep it appropriate for THR). I had a panicked moment as I realized that I was unarmed because (reason).

Fortunately, I was able to defuse the situation by (action or actions). They responded by (action or actions). However, always being prepared, if that hadn't worked, I was prepared to (backup plan). Looking back on it, I should have avoided (actions, locations or people), because (reason).

This is just to get people started on thinking about situations, if it is too limiting for the situation you have in mind, feel free to adapt it to fit. (sm, as always, you are welcome to share in your usual style.)

 

[VegasOPM]

I've found that the loud and forceful use of the phrase "there are no bones in ice cream" tends to get baffled looks and a major de-escalation. Also check out the fight scene in the movie "Anchorman".

 

[Zedo]

"I'm gonna kick your butt!" --

I've found that "You'll get shot dead trying." backs them off fairly fast. If it doesn't, it's time to shoot them.

The REAL defensive strategy is to give the jerk enough space that it doesn't get to the "I'm gonna kick your butt!" stage of discourse.

 

[anythingshiny]

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[FourNineFoxtrot]

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[sm]

First off, I strongly suggest:

Skip Gochenour's lecture notes at http://www.teddytactical.com/archive...2_StudyDay.htm . Here among other things he outlines the ADEE model of justification of use of force (Avoid, De-escalate/Disengage, Escape, Evade) as the model more appropriate to armed citizens.

 

[DWARREN123]

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[sm]

Second.

Preface:
I am a civilian, one that has never been in law enforcement or served in the military.
I have never attended a know training facility either.
All I can share, are my experiences and observations, including how raised, and this includes those I refer to respectfully as Mentor & Elders.

I have my personal reasons for choosing to pass forward as passed to me, to certain groups of persons.
So I tend to break it down to the levels I do, and share in the manner I chose to do.
I have my faults, and one of my biggest defaults of character is, I care, and I care to point where it cause me hurt and harm.
I have my convictions, and I will take serious objection to those that hurt those I care about.


I subscribe to ADEE, and always have, just when I was coming up, we did not have the exact letters, or acronym.
Then again we had drills and now they call them Tueller. We had 3 rules of gun safety and later rule three split to make rule four.


The name of the game is survival, and everybody goes home.

Don't go where trouble is, leave if trouble shows up and know how to deal with trouble if have to.

One can learn a lot by watching animals.
Humans are my human zoo, so my lessons included "reading the room".

-Signals.
The faster one reads the room and picks up a signal, the more time and distance they have to .Avoid,

Mentors said: Don't look like prey - think like a criminal.

So the first person I need to read in the room - is me.

-What perception do I give off?

i.e. If I have to make a bank deposit, and I walk out the door with a bank bag with First State Bank, and their logo on it.

a. I have advertised what I have , what I am going to do, and where I am headed.
I have given the perception of being Prey.

There is no guarantee I won't get targeted, either that day, or another day.
I have painted a big bulls-eye on my person.

There is no guarantee anything I do, is going to let me go home at the end of the day.

b. Conceal the bank deposit and walk out that door and give the perception I am going to do something else.
Looks at a clients new car.
Head out to see the mom with kids walking in front of business and say "hi".
Walk out with a buddy of mine and "I got a new dirty joke, lets go outside and smoke and let me tell it to you".

I do not give off any perception other than I choose to give off.
I might advertise "I am going to meet someone for lunch and while out, run by and get printer paper".

Anything, other than having a bank bag with large sums of money in cash and checks.

If I do not become prey targeted, then I do not have to De-escalate/Disengage, Escape, Evade.

I also do have to deal with Problem 2, Emergency Rooms, Operating Theatres, and Morgues.


ADEE
Avoid De-escalate/Disengage, Escape, Evade.


Quail.

A momma quail will feign a broken wing, to get a threat away from her young.

She has taken prudent steps to Avoid predators in where and now she has her young, in coveys.

No guarantees in this journey called life.

She De-escalates by feigning a broken wing, and the Predator stalks.
Her young gains more and more distance, as she creates distance from her young feigning a broken wing.

Predators like easy prey, and this momma quail is giving the perception of being easy prey.

Momma uses distance, and just when the Predator is about to pounce - she Explodes into the sky.
She does not carry a gun, knife, OC, instead she uses sound strategy and tactics to keep her young safe, and herself safe.

She de-escalated a threat.
She is a beautiful bird, and no bigger than one's fist.

Skip Gochenour is whom I suggest folks read first.
He is more learned and articulate than I.


Respect the quail - Ruark


Steve