I've told my wife that if it's gun pointed at gun I'm going to ask "are you alright?". At that point she is to go absolutely limp at which point she should drop from the BG giving a more clear shot.
I think this is a "great" plan, for a desperate (and of course, low probability) situation. The "great" is in quotes only because all the options are bad in one way or another--but that is the nature of a desperate situation. Your plan may be one of the best options.
I would suggest a counter-sign from the hostage so that you know the plan is remembered, and that she agrees to act now. She may be spooked, and forget (at least at first) the plan. If you ask, "are you alright?" and she answers "I'm fine" or "I'm scared" or "Help", you couldn't know for sure if she was simply answering or giving a counter-sign. So don't use those phrases as a counter-sign.
Maybe something like, "Stay back, stay back--he means business." That is not a natural response to "Are you all right;" it is a complex phrase; and it is something that the attacker will enjoy hearing. These are all great features for a counter-sign. Translated, it means, "I will drop within the next 5 seconds."
And when the hostage panics and does something unpredictable, such as shoots his hostage in the head??? Then what?
If the hostage-taker is that jumpy, then perhaps that outcome is inevitable--might be caused by the police showing up. Not every situation has a solution. But I am not going to let the knowledge that anything I do--including wait for the police--might lead to the worst outcome paralyze me.
We all have our choices to make, and no matter if we are Pollyannas, Eeyores, or Geckos, whatever choice we make could lead to the death of the hostage. We can't control what we can't control. So I focus on what I can control: no hostage-taker is going to leave my house with a family member. Period. Decided. Explained to my family.
I will give him many options to leave, but he will not leave with a hostage.
There are no statitics that can "prove" what the right thing to do will be, so there isn't a "right" answer here. I understand that you have an opinion on what would be best for all of us; and perhaps that the police will always arrive in time and always do the right thing; and the hostage will always survive. And that's fine. But deciding to stand down and wait for the police is also a decision, and could also lead to the hostage's death.
What if the hostage-taker demands your gun? Another hostage? Just give him anything he wants until the police arrive?
If you'll be able to live with your decision to stand down if that results in the hostage's death, then please expect that I'll be able to live with my decision.
(It is interesting: this is Strategies, Tactics and Training. Its very nature means thinking about low probability situations and deciding a best solution--even if there are no good solutions. Yet, we are hearing that this is too improbable even to talk about, and that the right tactical play is "give up and wait for the police." I guess that could be the answer to any tactical question posed here.
Fine, but the gentleman doesn't seem to have entered into the spirit of the forum. Or seems to believe he's the only one who's figured out: this is serious stuff--someone could get KILLED!
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