Does Your Spouse Have Access?

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She could if she wanted it. She doesn't want it.

I do however have a hard time keeping my daughters out of my firearms storage area. If I don't watch out, pretty soon I won't have anything left to shoot. :what:
 
She does have access, if she remembers the combination. Same kinda deal, she's my wife so of course she can go in there. She hasn't really that I can recall. We also keep her passport and our mortgage/household papers in there.
 
Absolutely....why wouldn't they? True horror story, though, that happened to me. Before I left for Iraq, ex-wife and I decided to separate. I moved her back to her home town where her parents were before I left for Iraq. We were supposed to be on amiable terms. Since we moved out of our house in Washington the very same I week I had to deploy to Iraq, 99% of everything went with her to Wyoming with the understanding that we would divide it up after I returned from Iraq.

Well, she sold the firearms collection of 16 guns and 1,000's rounds of ammo and the safe to fund her pit bull divorce lawyer that she hired to file for divorce while I was deployed.

So....current wife - yes absolutely all access. BUT, I won't be burned again, if there is a separation, she won't have access to anything. Although I certainly do not anticipate another separation or divorce :)
 
Only knows how to get into the safe that also has her jewelry in it. The combinations to the others are there also but she really hasnt much interest in the guns. Not a trust issue, just lack of interest on her part
 
Yes, she certainly does have access. She has one shelf to herself. Keeps all her nice jewelry there unless she is wearing it. :cool:
 
NavyLCDR, Thats the same tune played on my jukebox when I got tossed ! When I got court order to get in to get my things, 8 of my firearms had been sold to a Denver cop for $500 ! A brand new Ruger Security Six .357, and a Win. Big Bore .375 rifle were 2 of them that were gotten on credit, not even paid for yet! Yes, I trust this wife, she knows where 3 revolvers are, she definitely knows how they work too..... thats why I behave like I do. :D
 
Well, when New Town happened my idea of several family having full access changed. Not that of distrust, but sitting and watching the news for three days changed my thoughts. To me a major prob was the lack of securing firearms by his mother. Here we don't have storage/safe requirements. Though they were kept that way and others having access. As mentioned above after three days of that, I swore as a father and grandfather I never allow a similar occurance. I changed all acess except for myself.
(Wife not interested in firearms) I have the access in my pocket,so its either over or thru. If asked I will escort them and unlock, be there and lock up.
My response is different than many but that's me.
 
Sure, for two reasons:

1) There are also personal papers, jewelry, and keepsake/heirlooms in the safe and backups for the computers as well

2) She's been my partner in life for over 40 years, why shouldn't she?

Additional reason-she is currently fighting her way through Connecticut's needlessly complex and slow Pistol Permit process. She says she does not expect to ever actually carry a pistol, but she does not ever want anyone to be able to stop her from doing so.
 
Yes. She can simply walk in and pick one up. But she has no interest in guns.
None of them resemble fine Meissen 'porcelain', and they are not soft and furry like a pair of Himalayan cats.
 
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Yes, my beautiful bride has access to every gun in the house.

We don't have children, so it's just my wife, myself, and the dog.

BTW, both me and my wife were soldiers in the 101st Airborne Division (Air Assault)! ;)
 
NavyLCDR said:
Absolutely....why wouldn't they? True horror story, though, that happened to me. Before I left for Iraq, ex-wife and I decided to separate. I moved her back to her home town where her parents were before I left for Iraq. We were supposed to be on amiable terms. Since we moved out of our house in Washington the very same I week I had to deploy to Iraq, 99% of everything went with her to Wyoming with the understanding that we would divide it up after I returned from Iraq.

Well, she sold the firearms collection of 16 guns and 1,000's rounds of ammo and the safe to fund her pit bull divorce lawyer that she hired to file for divorce while I was deployed.

So....current wife - yes absolutely all access. BUT, I won't be burned again, if there is a separation, she won't have access to anything. Although I certainly do not anticipate another separation or divorce :)
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She cleaned you out while you were deployed???? :fire: Unfortunately I've heard that story far too many times before. Since Sister Beatrice told me if I didn't have anything nice to say to say nothing at all I cannot give my opinion of that kind of woman. I'm sorry it happened to you, rest assured she will come to her reward eventually.
 
I am happily no longer married.

Someone has to have access to my firearms and such should I be rendered unable to access them, and that person lives hundreds of miles away. If a situation requiring him to get to my guns should occur, there would be no hurry, so that's perfectly ok and even preferable.
 
Doc7 said:
The sad part is even my friends, and even my family I recently found out, are all already pre-programmed to have a fear of guns. My father didn't even want to go with me to the range to shoot my .22 revolver, because "handguns are way too easy to accidentally point in the wrong direction and shoot somebody...and they are so inaccurate anyway!"
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The reason it is like that in New Jersey is because law abiding citizens cannot buy any firearm in New Jersey without having to go down to the police department (some towns require an appointment!) , getting fingerprinted, paying fees for the FID card, paying fees for the fingerprints, paying fees for the actual background check, needing 2 (or 3 ) references (including from your employer in some towns), a very intrusive background check and then having to wait up 3 to 6 months to get that FID card, once you get the card...then its another $16 to $18 for the state NICS check just to buy a .22 squirrel rifle...or a BB gun.

Want a handgun.....? Same process as going for the FID. A handgun permit to purchase, requires a separate permit to purchase per handgun. And there is is the one handgun per month restriction in NJ. (Is the state NICS still backed up 2 to 3 weeks?)

In other states, just go to the LGS...walk out in 5 or 10 minutes and you are good to go. New Jersey's system is IMO purposely made intimidating, difficult, intrusive, redundant and expensive to discourage firearm ownership. Going to the police department and getting fingerprinted in order to exercise a constitutionally protected right is wrong.

People should not need three references, fingerprints, excessive fees and intrusive background checks and wait up to 6 months to get permission from the police in order to buy a .22 squirrel rifle.
 
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Doc7 said:
Noticing that OP is from NJ like myself, in this crazy state the question and answers have a lot more implications than they do for people who live in Actual America.

The exemptions to the NJ ban on firearm possession, which include having a gun in your house, and in your vehicle if and only if you're going directly to the range (hopefully your gas tank is full and you don't get hungry on the way) are only applicable to holders of a firearms ID card. The card that makes it legal for me to have a gun, if I fall under an exemption to the blanket illegality. CCW is of course out of the question, and long guns are not exempted. I could go on for days.

Anyway, the reason I think this is relevant to the OPs question is that my answer in a public forum for this has to be that my fiancee never ever has access or knowledge of the location of the key to my safe. For this reason alone I'm trying to get her to apply for the FID but with an upcoming name change, and hopefully moving soon after that, it is with half-hearted interest from both of us.
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Thanks for the explanation. Most of us who live in "real" America, sometimes forget just how insane and crazy some States are!

Not currently married, but of course my spouse would have access to my guns. I wouldn't marry her unless I trusted her. Of course, I have been known to be wrong before.:eek:
 
Of course she has access our firearms. I don't live in a FOID or similar state.
She also has keys to our house, keys to our cars, access to our finances, etc etc....
Note the key word; 'OUR'. My wife is my partner of 32 years, not some random stranger.

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Buzznrose said:
I don't have a safe...but I have access to MY WIFE'S SAFE and our guns....

Guess y'all haven't been married very long....


LOL!
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That sounds more like it around my house. She also "owns" more of the guns in there than I do now, even though she has never bought a single gun in her life.:confused:

And we haven't even been married five years yet, but that anniversary is coming up. Wonder if she would rather have the Mossberg 500 or the Ruger American?:D
 
zdc1775 said:
That sounds more like it around my house. She also "owns" more of the guns in there than I do now, even though she has never bought a single gun in her life.:confused:

And we haven't even been married five years yet, but that anniversary is coming up. Wonder if she would rather have the Mossberg 500 or the Ruger American?:D
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Either, provided you want that 1 1/2 caret cocktail ring...
 
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