ever bought a gun without telling wife ?

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While she does know about some of my gun buys, like if she happens to be with me at the time I buy one she is not aware of all of them nor does she care. :)

Ron
 
Over time I have learned to buy the gun. Then put it through the test for function. Then I'll break it out the next time we go to the range. If she likes, it is a keeper. If not, either it is gone, or I only take it out when by myself.

BTW, there are 2 in the safe ready to be seen by her, and a 3rd still going through the trials. :)
 
All the time and been married 30 years. She knows it's my hobby. She likes the typical womans stuff that she buys without asking me. As long as the bills are paid and food on the table it's a none issue and never been.
 
In my home we have household money and individual personal money. There's no need to discuss what is done with personal money as long as it doesn't harm anyone.
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I have a similar arrangement. We are far from wealthy but as we have gotten older and both of us have good established careers we make a bit more than we did in the early years. We have a very open dialog about money regularly and we have a clear understanding that, as long as the bills are paid, the 401K is getting regularly funded and we have a decent safety net in savings, what we do with the rest is a personal decision.

It truly does help to have a swell babe in your life when issues like firearm purchases come up. She still doesn't get the appeal but I don't get the appeal of homemade jewelry or rock gardens either so we compromise just fine.
 
My wife and I have always closely watched our finances, and have always lived within our means. Yes, she used to know how many guns I had and when I bought them. But as we got older, we started seeing close friends and family pass away for one reason or another and we realized life is short.

The last time she asked me about all my gun buying activity, I said the following to her in a calm but serious voice. "I grew up in a family where my parents were savers and only spent money when they absolutely had to. They were that way all their lives and instilled that into me. We have gone our entire marriage saving and only spending where we had to, and saving up for that rainy day, just like my Dad did. It's good to having a savings cushion, but we have that now. I have worked hard to earn money not only to save but to SPEND. We are not getting younger and I want to spend and enjoy just a little of what I make, without having to analyze whether the purchase is absolutely necessary. You know I am very careful about buying and only get good quality. I never have gone on a spending spree and never will - it's just not part of me. So you don't have to worry about me spending too much money. You have been married to me for 37 years and you know I would never spend money irresponsibly. So I think we need to start enjoying what we make, instead saving more and more just for the sake of saving it."

And that was pretty much the end of the discussions. I think the one thing I said that really got though to her was, "We have lived about 3/4 of our lives. I figure I have about 20 years left, give or take a few, and I want to enjoy them."

So yes, now I buy without telling her and she is good with that.
 
Yes since I started getting an allowance. She pays me $0.56/hour and I am available 24/7. I also have no bills; she gets and pays all bills with the house money. If I charge anything to a credit card, I usually tell her the house bought it so that my allowance is just for my guns and cameras.
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If one has to sneak around (purchasing a weapon) I`m sure there is other stuff that falls into that category.

Nothing good comes from dishonesty. J s/n.
 
We have that same arrangement if it comes down to it. Normally, we take turns buying things we want and then when it comes to her buying jewlery then I get to spend half of what it cost. Have never had a problem.
 
We give each other a small amount of discretionary money each month out of the family budget. I referee some sports which pays a little bit. That goes in my hobby fund also. She knows when I go to a gun show or if I pass through a certain town I'll stop at a little gun shop. Here's how it goes when I come home with something...

"I bought a new gun. Do you want to see it?" "OK. Oh, that's nice."
"Do you want to hold it?" "No thank you."
"Do you want to shoot it with me?" "No thank you."

Then it's part of the family.
 
When operating from a financial picture with plenty of spare funds floating around, and his and her slush funds, the issue appears trivial.

When operating from limited finances, and struggling to float the boat financially with lot's of family expenses and the ever haunting "how will we pay for college" questions, it's a very different scenario.

Then you have the greatly diverse ways couples can elect to handle their finances...

Perhaps a better question is "has anyone ever made an irresponsible financial decision regarding a gun purchase?" :neener:

And if so, "how did your spouse react?" :eek:
 
If you have to hide your hobby from your wife, she shouldnt be your wife.... Or it shouldnt be your hobby. Dishonesty has no place in a marriage.
 
Yes I did. She was aware of two things I was going to purchase. Then, at the store I saw a browning micro Midas 22 LR lever action. I had been looking for over a year for one and it was never in stock. Explaining the lucky find wouldn't have helped. I bought it and put in the back of the safe so it looked like it had been there a long time.
 
The only person who has any say over my finances is me. My ex used to get mad when I bought guns. I don't like any woman enough to let her tell me what I can and cant do. Notice I said my EX :)
 
Gun no problem, but try driving up in a new car. hehe
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I've done both. Guns, I never discuss with my wife unless it is for her. Been married for 32 years and I don't make purchases that will put us in a bind. She trusts my judgement and doesn't care. In fact for the last 10-12 years I've gradually been thinning the herd. Any new purchases have been 100% funded by selling something else at a profit. She did suggest it might be a good idea to sell a couple of AR's for 3X what I paid for them a couple of years ago. Probably should have and replaced them now.

When I drove up in the new truck unannounced she only wanted to go for a ride. Good wives are hard to find, I got a good one.
 
Scooter22 said:
All the time and been married 30 years. She knows it's my hobby. She likes the typical womans stuff that she buys without asking me. As long as the bills are paid and food on the table it's a none issue and never been.
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Yeah, that pretty much covers how it is around here. :)

Ron
 
I would never buy a gun without letting my wife know. She is really cool and if she knows that it is important to me and i have a use for it and I want to get it, she is more than willing to allocate funds to it. But if I were to buy one without telling her, the trust would be gone, and she would never want to me to buy another one. It would always be a fight after that. I love and respect my wife enough to talk to her about what I want. She loves and respects me enough to know that I have hobbies and interests that I should be aloud to indulge every so often.

My father has a really bad habit of buying guns without my mothers knowledge and if and when she finds out it will be a big fight and I know that he will not win. Honesty really is the best and easiest option. Lucky for him she doesnt know the safe combo. Nor likes guns so wont go snooping.

Communication is easiest
 
Really? Are we really going there? Thats like asking a woman how old she is... or what she weighs...

Hell yes... I buy guns all the time without telling. Its just easier. That way I dont have to answer...

Dont you already have one like that?
Will you ever shoot it?
Is it going to be mine?
How much did it cost?
Dont you have enough guns now?
How many more are you going to buy?
 
I've always told her when making a purchase, guns or otherwise. We've had this agreement since day one. I tried the other way in the last marriage, guess that speaks for itself. Honesty above wants.
 
I always tell her, but I usually search the web to find the same model that has a ridiculously high price so I can show her how much money I saved.
 
I just hope if/when my widow sells my guns she gets the real market value for them, not what she thinks they cost.
 
" I just bought this COLT, Honey. Write him a check for 1200 bucks."
NO BIG DEAL !!! Who is running most of your homes anyways?!?!
SHE has also bought her own 22 Revolver, 32 revolver, and 44SPL revolver.
Women have hollered for decades to be treated equally, so I treat them EXACTLY like I'd treat a man, and you cannot be treated more equally that that !! THIS separates the phonies and bitchers from the real women who fully understand there are NO free lunches. Think I am kidding: go ask my wife if---IF!!---she is treated with perfect equality. When she told the old hens at the quilting group this they were in shock/awe and suddenly I was treated to MR TERRY by some of the grabbiest old bags you'd have ever seen.
And so it goes...
 
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