Slow reloads: It just depends upon the circumstances....
Take an autoloader with one loaded magazine and a loaded revolver, and a box of 50 rounds for each, and then see which is faster to reload.
This is a total non-sensical, invalid "comparison." The circumstance we're discussing is defensive use with the weak hand only. Suddenly, 5-8 shots may not be enough, whereas 9 or 20 may well make all the difference.
Again, you take the .38/.357/9mm/.38 Super/.41/.44/.45 revolver of choice, I'll take my XD-m and we'll see who can put 20 rds on target first. I'll even let you fire 6 before I fire my first shot.
Low capacity: This is certainly true when compared to certain autoloaders (like the Glock 17), but it's not so true when compared to the typical 7-shot 1911.
And if you're unfortunate enough to live in a state that mandates 10-round magazines only, the difference is just a few bullets.
My 1911's hold 8, 9, 10 and 11 rds, not counting the STI's that hold 21. A "few bullets" may matter greatly, since you're firing weak hand only, the typical accuracy you may have with two hands just isn't going to be there.
Harsh recoil: This greatly depends upon the gun and the ammo selected.
Not all larger caliber revolvers deliver harsh recoil.
And it's very easy to customize the grips of a revolver to reduce the felt or perceived recoil.
And there are plenty of autoloaders with harsh recoil as well....
lightweight guns shooting powerful calibers, revolver or autoloader, are not much fun to shoot.
Revolvers suited for defense will typically kick more than a semi-auto suitable for defense. A 3" S&W Model 66 with 125 grain JHP's will kick more than a similar sized 9mm loaded with 115 JHP Corbons. Of course, if you load the 66 with 148 target wadcutters, that changes, but so does the effect on target.
Hard DA pull: Practice, practice, practice....
If one struggles with the DA trigger of a revolver, then one probably has rather weak hand and finger muscles.
It seems that you keep forgetting that the "circumstance" in this thread is using the weak hand ONLY. What worked two handed or even strong hand only may or may not weak hand only. If you break your dominant arm tonight, tomorrow is a poor time to find out that your weakhand only DA skills are lacking. Under these circumstances, selecting a gun that's easier to shoot reasonably well becomes more important.
It's a good idea to practice weakhand only skills BEFORE we find we need them, regardless of your gun choice.
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