Hassled while CCW

[distra]

So I stopped in to see a friend at his place of business today and his wife was there too. We talked for a few minutes then she mentioned my wife had been in last week and talked to her husband about getting his CT permit. Apparently he did that which is cool! She then proceeds to badger me at whether or not I'm carrying! I calmly evade her questions then she starts grabbing my shirt and walking around behind me all the while asking "what is this?" "Is that the gun?" I continue to evade and put my back up against the wall to keep her from frisking me down! I try to play it cool, but my face got flushed and I did get uncomfortable and try to change the subject. This went on for a few minutes then she finally quit. She is not really against CCW, she just wanted to know if I was carrying right then. I said "If you can't tell then don't worry about." She seemed to take that in stride, but I'm not sure she believed me. Anyway, how would you handle a situation like this? I felt a little exploited and nervous throughout the whole encounter.

 

[Beaux Nehr]

Wow, that is completely inappropriate on her part on so many levels.

 

[Maverick223]

That is rude and insulting, I would have picked up and left.

 

[Onward Allusion]

Er, and her husband, your friend didn't say or do anything???

 

[WardenWolf]

I would have said, "Ma'am, is this how you treat a guest?" I can pretty much guarantee she'd have immediately gotten so embarrassed she stopped.

 

[kingpin008]

"Kindly get your hands off of me."

If she doesn't stop, leave. Refuse to come back until she learns how to be an adult.

 

[danprkr]

Was she cute? I gotta say, if so then I'd have let her frisk me. Might even have given her hints. Of course I'm a little more open minded than many, and I bet I could take more frisking than she could give.

As to the hubby - well if he didn't stop her then it is his problem if he doesn't like where it goes. I suppose it'd cost me a friend, but a friend who'd put me in that position is a friend I could probably do with out anyway.

 

[distra]

Husband tried to get her off the subject, but there was no stopping her! She's head strong and when she gets something in her brain she doesn't let it go easily! I was more embarrassed than anything and I did tell her several times to not touch me or my shirt. It was just a very uncomfortable situation that I thought would never happen to me.

 

[DFW1911]

Wait one - I'm confused: it sounds very much as if she knew you were carrying to me, or does she just do that to everyone she meets / hangs out with?

If she did know, how?

If she did know, why?

I think some things are better left unsaid, and I'm not saying a thing

Thanks,
DFW1911

 

[beatcop]

Aside from her lack of "weapons edicate", she was likely just giddy at the thought of that powerfull weapon in your pants. Perhaps one female can inform the other of the proper procedures...?

 

[distra]

Wait one - I'm confused: it sounds very much as if she knew you were carrying to me, or does she just do that to everyone she meets / hangs out with?

My wife told her husband and her that we both had our CT permits.

If she did know, how?

She just assumed since she knew I had a permit (see above),

If she did know, why?

She knew we were from TX and her husband had gotten his CT permit and simply assumed I was carrying.

I think some things are better left unsaid, and I'm not saying a thing

Thanks,
DFW1911

Agreed. I did not think it would turn out like this.

 

[danprkr]

FWIW, I can't imagine any of my REAL friends allowing this to happen. That was the light hearted point to my previous post. I also can't imagine any of my REAL friends being with someone who would do that.

Sorry you were uncomfortable, I did not mean to make light of your reaction to the situation. Nor to derail the thread into the gutter.

 

[G.A.Pster]

“Loose lips sink ships” as they say.

No one needs to know.

 

[DFW1911]

Okay, that's what I thought...except the Texas part, which is good news!

That's a tough one, I feel for you! Oh, nice of hubby to leave you in the hot zone!

 

[Cuzzin]

That incident, whether she was just 'playin' or not, could have escalated in to an attempt to snatch your weapon - who knows what could have happened then. I would not have allowed her to take any action (grabbing, patting, or whatever) without using some defensive measure to make her change her mind - no different than anyone else if they attempted to pull a stunt like this. Use verbal judo, or something even more severe, that would definately put a stop to it. She needs to know concealed carry is serious business and should be treated as such - not some game...

 

[shotgunjoel]

I would have told her "No, I'm not carrying right now." Would have answered her question and ended the situation.

 

[Nushif]

As long as she's safe around a gun she could take it from my holster for all I care, to be honest.

This is not some crazyass situation with massive risks. This is a little bit of pestering among friends, or at least I like to think.

 

[mnrivrat]

I would have turned to her and say "now it's my turn to see what your packing !" & started to return the favor .

 

[Impureclient]

Maybe point at your crotch area and say "it's right here so go ahead and pat it down, it's deeply concealed though."

 

[TIMC]

Why yes I'm carrying in a Thunderware holster check for yourself if your hubby does't mind!

That should have been your answer.

 

[sonick808]

she was hitting on you , hah

 

[MIL-DOT]

I realize this is the High Road,and all, yet I'm still surprised no one has suggested this, but if she really behaved as you described, you might should have slapped her upside her F-ing head.

 

[Manco]

"It's classified. I could tell you, but then I'd have to kill you."

 

[ShadyScott999]

Leave it to the Georgia boy(Mil Dot) to say what the SC boy was thinking. Bless her heart. If you aren't from the South, you won't get that.

 

[NG VI]

I would have said, "Ma'am, is this how you treat a guest?" I can pretty much guarantee she'd have immediately gotten so embarrassed she stopped.

And that's the best answer I've seen, though the thread is full of appropriate reactions.

Personally I probably would have said something to the effect of "don't touch me" and if that wasn't effective, I don't see any harm in holding her arms against her sides and saying, "I am not your husband, you do not get to touch me any time you want. I am letting go now, do not touch me again, now or ever."

I don't know if that would be across the line or not, but I have never had a friend's wife touch me before either.

Had one girl I met tell me after a couple fortuitous encounters that she had a steady boyfriend already, but she agreed with me that I had dibs when he blew it again in the future.