Hassled while CCW

[gym]

Why did you stay for more than a few seconds?

 

[hso]

Was this in private at the business or where the public could walk in?

You should have simply said "STOP". If she hadn't you should have told her that what she was doing was both inappropriate and dangerous.

 

[rm23]

As long as she's safe around a gun she could take it from my holster for all I care, to be honest.

This is not some crazyass situation with massive risks. This is a little bit of pestering among friends, or at least I like to think.

I agree, maybe not take if from the holster though. It's not like it's some crackhead on the street. This woman knows you and knows that you have a permit to carry.

It's really hard to comment on this whole ordeal because we don't know what your relationship with her is like. If you were close, I don't see what the problem would've been with just lifting your shirt.

 

[NG VI]

rm23, how do you think she would react if he walked up to her and tried lifting HER shirt, asking incessantly "whatcha got under here, huh?"



I know I wouldn't want to be in town when that happened.

 

[distra]

Was this in private at the business or where the public could walk in?

It was in their store front which they share with another business. There were not many folks around, but there were some customers in the store.

You should have simply said "STOP". If she hadn't you should have told her that what she was doing was both inappropriate and dangerous.

I should have done this for sure and let her know the seriousness of the whole thing. In CT, you can loose your permit if the wrong person sees your CCW. Now you will get it back, but it's a PITA to go through.

It's really hard to comment on this whole ordeal because we don't know what your relationship with her is like. If you were close, I don't see what the problem would've been with just lifting your shirt.

We are fairly close. He built our house and she was our realtor. The biggest issue is it caught me off guard. I believe she was just curious being from Canada she is not too familiar with CCW. She has not had much exposure to firearms and I'd like to change that, but she needs to calm down a bit before I'm willing to take her to the range.

 

[floods]

Problem #1: She was reaching for your weapon.

That's pretty serious.

 

[oldfool]

duhhh.. I know it's Friday/bourbon night, but get serious, people
this was (per OP) a close friend, and friend's wife..

ohmygawd, my secret agent status has been compromised (in private, not public) by my good friend, who told a person who is closer to him than I am.. that I CCW

HELP !
where is the duct tape when you really really need it !

duhhh...
"yes, that is my gun, ma'm"


IF and ONLY IF you are truly adventurous, and/or stupid, (and even closer "friends" than you might really oughta' be) do you then ask "Would you like to fondle it, ma'm ?" or "But that don't mean I don't really really like you, ma'm"

heckifiknow, but I do not advertise that I CCW, but I do find it a tad hard to believe that any close friends I have (and quite likely their wives) would be shocked and/or stunned that I own guns and that most of the people in my family have CCW permits

PS
yeah, I know it's really important to be "sensitive" and "aware" and all that
but I do miss the good old days when just about anybody could ask a man a braindead simple question requiring a simple one word answer, and get a simple one word answer..

or maybe I just do not spend enough time considering who I ought to kill 1st every time I enter a room, any room, any where
I need to work on that, I guess
:banghead:


PS
gosh, just think about what coulda' happened if OP was a Open Carry guy !

WOW.. now THAT's scary !!!

 

[X-Rap]

Yep I think oldfool wins the prize. I'm guessing from the OP's posts that they are pretty close, some of my friends wives are like sisters to me and unless she was a 6'4" UCONN basketball player I'm pretty sure I could break off the frisking before she got her hand on my weapon.
Good point on the OC as well, there are many posts with serious talk of weapons retention and the like, the worst that could come from someone serious about retention is the wife and maybe the hubby getting pissed cause you bent her wrist over if she got to close.

 

[thorazine]

Anyway, how would you handle a situation like this?

If possible -- fart loudly.

I am dead serious.


It is highly effective in distracting someone in situations like this.

 

[Maverick223]

If possible -- fart loudly.

You win!

 

[Oregun89]

"Yes, I'm carrying, don't grab at me like a child!", is what I would hope to say.

 

[Kentucky_Rifleman]

I do miss the good old days when just about anybody could ask a man a braindead simple question requiring a simple one word answer, and get a simple one word answer..

or maybe I just do not spend enough time considering who I ought to kill 1st every time I enter a room, any room, any where
I need to work on that, I guess

LMAO!

That was the best laugh I've had in a week!

KR

 

[FROGO207]

Slow night on the TV or what.

 

[distra]

Oldfool, you got it! In CT one has to be a little more discrete with carrying. Where I live not so much, but in other parts of the state you have to very careful. I was just caught off guard and could not think on my feet well as I should have. I'll be ready next time!

Firearm retention was never an issue. She was just real curious about me carrying.

 

[hoodfu]

If anyone wants to see it, just say that "it's illegal to show a concealed firearm outside of the home other than at a gun shop/range etc. Do you want to get both you and me arrested?" That's probably the most objective and non-insulting way to get an over curious friend to stop.

 

[Old Shooter]

All good suggestions but one thing I would be concerned about. If you were carrying a Glock or some other pistol which has the "Safety is between your ears" trigger and this patting down horseplay got as far as the bangswitch it could turn out to be a horrible ending of a friendship.

If I was carrying in that situation I would have said "look at the time, I gotta go".

I won't play games with any weapon, friends or not.

 

[jonmerritt]

I think she was just wanting an excuse to get her hands on you.

 

[shockwave]

Why did this woman know that you had a firearm on your person?

Why did she know?

She should not have known.

 

[hunto]

Tell her you crotch-carry. Wanna check?

 

[danprkr]

she was hitting on you , hah

I know that sonick808 was joking with this one, but it's probably true to some degree. I wouldn't allow myself into any compromising positions with this lady. Not unless you want to be part of something that will (or should) make you deeply ashamed.

It' funny though I have some friends close friends that it wouldn't bother me, but they're the ones who would never do this to me. Then I have some, what I consider 2nd tier friends, that might try it, but for some reason mostly they don't even know that I carry.

 

[SharpsDressedMan]

Next time tell her you have it in a crotch holster, and she is free to frisk you..........

 

[searcher451]

I'm with those who would have walked out the door, quickly and with additional explanation. (I'd also be wary about returning to the same set of circumstances with her in the same room, particularly if nothing had changed.) Later, I'd have a discussion with both her and her husband on neutral turf to discuss what is appropriate and what is not when it comes to concealed carry.

 

[Nushif]

I know you guys are are a bit paranoid and stuff, but I cant agree with with oldfool (hehe) enough.
Call me odd, but a friends wife is free to frisk me without me "feeling ashamed" or me putting her into the good-girl-jacket. We're not secret agents people. The worst you can get, for someone asking if you're armed and you saying yes (even in non open carry states) is a Trooper coming by and saying to the person who reported you why on earth they're listening in on your conversation.

 

[KBintheSLC]

Sounds a little undereducated (regarding gun safety) on her part. Since she already knew you were carrying, or at least that you have a permit to carry, just say "yes, I'm carrying... please don't touch it for safety's sake". Unless you like being frisked by your friends wife...

 

[NG VI]

We're not secret agents people. The worst you can get,

In Connecticut it seems that the worst that could happen is he could lose his license and be arrested for brandishing.

It has nothing to do with "secret agent" thinking. It's just exceedingly poor manners.