Polar Express
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Add one more in support of KodiakBeer's post.
There are so many variables here, many have been mentioned: level of friendship, comfort level of respective spouses, value system, etc., so it's hard to say cart-blanche what response would be ideal. It's different for everyone.
I'm willing to put up with some personal discomfort (if a friend's wife crosses a personal boundary) if the end result is a lesson learned. I too, have challenges with words 'in the point of the moment', but can usually come up with something good with even a few moments of preparation.
Sitting here, not in the OP's position, it's easy for me to say 'what I would have done..' but it's not fair.
Distra, can you now, a few days later, sit down with both of them, and share with her that her actions made you feel very uncomfortable? It could be a great opportunity to introduce her to etiquette, and help her understand that while guns are not to be feared, it's not appropriate to just start grabbing someone to see if you can find their weapon. IF she is the kind of person that would object to someone grabbing at her, that could be brought up. If not, avoid that angle altogether.
Sorry you were put in that position. I bet I would have felt flustered and uncomfortable, mostly for not knowing what to say exactly then.
PE
There are so many variables here, many have been mentioned: level of friendship, comfort level of respective spouses, value system, etc., so it's hard to say cart-blanche what response would be ideal. It's different for everyone.
I'm willing to put up with some personal discomfort (if a friend's wife crosses a personal boundary) if the end result is a lesson learned. I too, have challenges with words 'in the point of the moment', but can usually come up with something good with even a few moments of preparation.
Sitting here, not in the OP's position, it's easy for me to say 'what I would have done..' but it's not fair.
Distra, can you now, a few days later, sit down with both of them, and share with her that her actions made you feel very uncomfortable? It could be a great opportunity to introduce her to etiquette, and help her understand that while guns are not to be feared, it's not appropriate to just start grabbing someone to see if you can find their weapon. IF she is the kind of person that would object to someone grabbing at her, that could be brought up. If not, avoid that angle altogether.
Sorry you were put in that position. I bet I would have felt flustered and uncomfortable, mostly for not knowing what to say exactly then.
PE